Yes you're crazy. Do not pray on this please, I'll cry.
Tbh I agree but I'm already frustrated with them I'm so close to crying from frustration bro
You aren’t wrong. But with the way Minato is self aware of his own behavior makes me have hope. Many couples break up in situations like this because one partner refuses to admit their mistakes and continue to do the same thing. I don’t think trauma can be fixed within some years, and therapy isn’t a greatly accepted thing in Japan, but it’s not nonexistent. He can go to therapy and find a solution to his trauma, I doubt his trauma will go away, but something to help him cope.
About work and life part, that’s something they have to work on for their relationship. Shizuma said he’d change workplaces if it bothers Minato because of the boss’s behavior, but Minato refused and said something about not wanting to add so much burden/trauma.
He also knows it isn’t easy for Shizuma to find jobs. And it’s his dream to become a vet, he’s known since the first story. His trauma got to him here but he didn’t let it get too far, he didn’t isolate his partner from others. It was mainly his insecurity and jealousy when it came to seeing Shizuma with his boss who seems like a woman, cause before this Shizuma was straight.
I think Minato realizes he’s wrong and that’s really important for a relationship to mend. He was mad and he soon expressed it instead of continuing the silent treatment and suppressing his emotions. And when he heard Shizuma saying how scared he was that Minato said he was tired of this, Minato told him that he won’t say it again if it made him this scared.
Shizuma is a green flag and honestly one of the best tops I’ve seen. He handles some stuff amazingly such as trying to communicate and telling his boss off for disrespecting their relationship, so I don’t think Shizuma is entirely trying to please his boss. Minato is definitely lucky to have him.
Holy shit
That's what I love to be honest. That they are both trying. Relationships that lack communication and patience usually ends up in failure, if you add trauma to that it's quite the challenge, so seeing them both keeping each other grounded at times make me think how lucky they must be to have each other. I also know about the hardships when it comes to traumas; and no number of years can truly erase all the bad things, and yes it really is closer to impossible to getting theraphy in Japan. Which is quite sad. Because true enough, you just end up learning to live with it at some point.
I guess I just felt this strong feeling of wanting to see them apart, some things just become so clear when you do that. I also know it doesn't work for everyone, it could be wishful thinking on my part. Maybe I just wanted to see something that would make them both realize that this truly is what they needed to create a version of themselves that could be the push in their relationship. Like how when you fail, and you realize at the end you needed that failure to get to the you now, but maybe that's just me.
Their relationship is actually the most mature level headed relationship I've seen, it depicts how most challenges are and it's truly fascinating because you can sometimes relate. To add, I also don't want them to break up, there's just something that I cannot seem to explain that I can feel from how the story has flowed, and from the characters that makes me push for the drift apart from each other first.
He truly is a green flag. They're both lucky to have met each other. 'Cause seeing them from the start to now, you actually see the change in both of them, for the better.
I truly think my thoughts on the flow of the story so far is truly opinionated, and I really loved how you explained how you saw the story from you perspective. So I'd like to thank you for sharing your thoughts with me.
I agree with you. Because it is fiction, I close my eyes off and don't over-think, but in real life, I wouldn't bother myself with someone like Minato.
I hate the concept of I can fix him/her. Minato is emotionally tiring to deal with
I agree with you. They both need some space and time. I would say they need a break, not a a break up. Putting some distance between the two might actually help them to process their relationship problems better. You can and will realize a lot of things about yourself when you are alone.
To be clear, I am on Minato's side since he's the only one who has some self-awareness and we can actually see how he try to better himself. At least he is putting some effort to this relationship, can't say the same for Shizuma. He's a nice guy for sure, but not a good boyfriend.
Am I crazy for thinking that they need to break up first?
I love their dynamic, but I feel that Minato needs to work on his views on their whole relationship first. I'm not rooting for an overly dramatic flow of story (well, I do enjoy this type of story if there is growth and actual change for the good for the characters). Anyways, it just feels like it would be an usual occurance in their relationship every single time, the trauma and baggage Minato brings and how Shizuman is still new to the whole aspect of being part of the community plus his own trauma and baggage as well. I love Shizuma for being so considerate and understanding but it just feels like he'll get burnt out at some point and it would feel so sad to see their relationship break from there.
Maybe like a few years of both of them just finding themselves and working on their whole being first, I just think that both their personal lives and work lives are so intertwined that the line of how they're a couple and how they're also a seperate being is merging into one. Not sure if anyone feels this but this is just what it seems to me somehow. I get the part that for a relationship to work, you work it out together because that's part of being in a couple but there are cases where when you're both drowning, and no matter how hard both of you try to save each other you'd still sink, you have to realize that maybe if you try to swim or float on your own first, and the other does the same, you'd both stop from sinking too fast. This is just what I feel from the story of their relationship since day 1.
Any thoughts?