I agree with you so much and as a person who has experienced both being suicidal and helping someone else before, comforting is not the same thing as babying. It makes them feel worse, in reality—as if they’re worthless, a burden, and useless alone. This is what made me feel a bit uncomfortable reading this story because she keeps on infantilizing him while encouraging him at times and it swings back and forth so badly I get frustrated.
I believe the issue is that she doesn’t view him as his own person but a character in a book, hence why she is always thinking “oh no I have to do everything to protect this sweet cinnamon roll sunshine,” just like how we readers love to say “protect at all costs” about some of our fav characters. If this were real life, her actions would be overstepping as if she were his mom and tbh it’s a little unsettling. Hopefully, she realizes soon that this is reality, not some alternate dreamland fantasy of a novel.
I mean...
That's the korean way of doing it?
I am not korean but, from what I've seen, there's this culture of "babying your boyfriend" and being fussy and motherly towards them... It's a common thing to do.
More precisely, she acted like that in a way to "act normal", especially BECAUSE he was suicidal. Not in spite of it.
It's not pity, it's a shot at normally
Idk where the edit button is
*Normalcy
I understand her point of view but her concern has been borderlining obsession and it is absolutely not helping him at all. She’s actively sabotaging and hindering him from having agency under the pretense of care and it pains me to say this but I know she has good intentions. Still, she’s projecting her image of the ML as a weak suicidal victim. She cannot view him as a victim that needs protection forever. He needs to stand up for himself but instead of feeling proud that he eventually moves on, she’s the one dictating what is ‘right’ for him when she hasn’t even taken into consideration anything the ML has been trying to tell her. He doesn’t want revenge; SHE is the one who wants it FOR him despite him saying he DOESN’T want it.
You cannot tell me this is healthy because unconsciously, she’s acting as if she knows better what is good for the ML. The ML has been hinting many times that he no longer feels anything for the OGFL and simply wishes to be happy but she refuses to trust him. She thinks he CANNOT be happy unless she takes revenge for him, which is ridiculous when the man said himself he doesn’t want that.
He WAS suicidal but he’s HEALING and she has been doing wonders for him already. It’s high time she realize now that he’s in a much better place mentally than before. She doesn’t have to baby him this much. He’s fully capable of making his stand now and it’s so frustrating that she refuses to properly acknowledge this. I get that she’s worried and concerned, rightfully so, but you have to learn to trust in the process and see that your ‘patient’ is truly recovered.
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Ok
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I never said it was healthy.
I kinda hate it too. I was just trying to clarify what the author might have intended to depict.
Ah my apologies if I misunderstood you. I do understand what the author is doing because this kind of thing is very normal in like a bunch of other manhwa I’ve read. Doesn’t mean it isn’t a lil uncomfortable at times.
Popping out at chapter 52 to say I’m getting slightly irritated at how often Hestia just babies and fusses over Caelus. Like yes, he is depressed as heck and was suicidal. But like… even when HE initiates certain actions, she’s always so quick to jump in and try to talk him down and just… seems to want to keep him locked in his room the entire time and doing nothing.
Maybe I’m just uneducated and this is just how you’re meant to look after a suicidal depressed person but I’m just like ‘girl, can you let him have SOME agency in his life? Yes, he’s still mentally recovering but he’s also a fully grown man. If he says he wants to go to the Palace or go somewhere that may have some sore memories, it’s his prerogative and you should support him, not hinder him.” The level of kids safety gloves she’s treating this man with.