i think ppl just think its a LITTLE creepy to date somebody you knew when they were like 5. i dont think anyones condemning the younger guy
I guess that's whats weird too — to think that its creepy to have a happy ending with your first love.
i mean again nobody is saying its creepy for the younger guy.. but most people in any situation think its creepy to date someone you knew when they were a kid, even if you didnt like them as a kid. especially irl.
Is that based on personal experience? Cause just asked an irl friend for feedback if the notion is creepy, especially when the premise doesnt involve the slightest intention of grooming, etc but that both parties reconciled when they were adults and the younger pursued the older — and nah, not creepy at all.
Stating that "most people irl", have you interviewed most people in the world? Or is this some other "most people" commenting here who dont touch real grass that thinks this is creepy? Or is there a forum of real accounts of people you based on to claim that most people do believe the situation is creepy?
most people ive met yes sorry but the notion ‘most people’ doesnt require “interviewing most people in the world’ just like you asked your friend and have decided it wasn’t. i can ask an irl friend right now and they’ll probably agree with me. also technically this topic section is a “forum of real accounts” that majority think its creepy. i can easily call you chronically online for thinking its not creepy as you call the people who do. you cant determine that through these comments nor can you determine that due to them holding an opinion opposite of yours but if you want a “most people” just google “is it creepy to date somebody you knew as a kid” the majority of the people disagreeing are people who date somebody they knew as a kid both ways.
I guess it depends on the person. Some people would see it as creepy and some wouldn't. I wouldnt and I think it's bc of how my parents got together. My paternal grandmother's nephew dated and married my mom's older sister. So I come from a "double related" family; not by incest, of course. And even before that, our families knew each other. They are from neighboring small towns, where everybody knew everybody...even in the neighboring small town. Anyway, my mom was 4 years older than my dad (r.i.p.). She knew him since he was 14 and she was like 18. When he turned 18, he went to the army. Two years later, came back and asked my mom to marry him. She said they should date first, which they did. My dad and his brothers were well known in both towns as fighters (its why I looove reading delinquent stories and age gap stories. Bonus if it's delinquent with age gap. And military stories. And uke older than seme stories.) and when people found out my mom was dating him, nobody messed with her...meaning men stayed away. Before he went back to base, they got married so, it was a short courtship, despite them knowing each other for years. She got to travel with him too, staying on family bases. 7 kids later, they were married until his death from diabetic complications in 2018. My dad was an asshole to the fullest, but in his own way.....I guess he loved us. Despite all of that and my feelings about him, I still find their Love Story adorable.
You’re looking at this from such a weird perspective, it’s not wrong to be a child and have a cute little crush with an older person, it’s wrong and disgusting for an older adult person to feel the same way back to a child crushing on them..this is common sense, I fear.
What's with people's belief system these days? You're bothered that he liked him as a child? Like if was a child, i'm not allowed to like someone older than me? For fcks sake what are yall on about? Its just a crush that bore fruit when they were adults. No grooming etc but yall picture it as something disturbing??? Children have crushes all the time, and it can be an older figure who gives them comfort and love.