Not you trying to say "but the abuse wasn't so bad!" because it wasn't as bad as other people's abuse? A thing that people literally do to minimize people's trauma and hurt?
Mentally torturing someone to the point of them repeatedly trying to commit suicide and creating the conditions where you are hated by everyone and LITERALLY GOT SHOT AND HAD A MISCARRIAGE? Destroying the small things that made her happy, withholding affection, still having sex with her despite acting like she's less than dirt.
Come on, you know better than that.
lol, I knew I would get these kinds of comments. First, you put quotations around a sentence I never wrote. :)
I'm not minimizing, I am equating. But also, I was truly asking a question about what all abuse she suffered because I said what I personally remembered. I am not minimizing a characters fictional pain by asking this question. But I will say speaking cruelly is not the same as stabbing them. Get my point? She was shot because of politics, because of what her father had done and she was hated. She tried to kill herself once she saw the cruel things her father had done up close and personal, and she was already beaten down and abused emotionally by her husband.
I never said she wasn't abused, and mistreated in a cruel way. I only pointed out that I have seen far worse in these kind of stories and ultimately this wasn't as bad and didn't last as long as some other stories I have read ( and I am happy for that because I would have dropped this.. I am tired of waiting for a redemption arc that takes too long and in most cases should never be earned back)... and I was asking if I was remembered it correctly, that there wasn't physically abuse? Or imprisonment.. etc. Please climb off your soapbox . You have no idea who you speak to, if the person has had their own lifetime of abuse and doesn't need you to explain it.
The justification is crazy. Abuse is abuse. It isn’t the struggle Olympics. There is no first or last place. There’s no hierarchy abuse is bad no matter what it is whether it’s physically verbally emotionally sexually financially abuses is abuse And you can’t rate Abuse, and you are actually minimizing saying it didn’t get physical you are down playing experiences By saying it’s fictional when these are real life serious scenarios that happen Your comparing wounds by saying one is a stab and one is a slash so it’s worse no it’s a wound and it hurts no matter what and your equation sounds a lot like excusing/justifying/belittlement saying it wasn’t that bad is literally ridiculous and callous ur logic is flawed
And not to mention, it wasn’t just her father That made her want to kill herself. Imagine you’ve been in love with this man get married to this man He stages a revolution and murders your father, right in front of you And then hold you hostage by marriage lets the political narrative About you Becomes so out of control That you get shot and have a miscarriage You have nothing left to live for because you have no family. You have no friends and the whole country hates you. Your husband is severely abusive and basically uses you as a verbal punching bag and a sex doll You don’t have anywhere to go or hide you have nothing to live for so you try to end things and he still makes it about himself like you aren’t traumatized I figuring out that your whole life is a lie and nobody loves you and your trapped by your love for somebody/ marriage and you’re being abused and your severely depressed
I'm not trying to be disrespectful.. I'm just not reading all that.Enjoy your preaching.
I didn't read the novel... but I feel like he was horribly verbally abusive and cruel.. controlling. But remind me if I'm wrong, he never was physical with her and he was hateful, but also tried to have things the way she liked? Am I wrong? If I'm not, and that is NOT ok, but I have read WAY worse abusive stories where there is some kind of redemption arc. To be honest, had to quit reading those, it's just black clouds filling up my brain, but this one didn't last long and he said a lot of mean things, but I feel that is the worst of it. AS I remember <-