So his friend basically said that he thinks the mc or whatever is too much? Like always pa...

Some people are just more self conscious about financial differences than others. The friend wasnt really saying the financial difference is the issue, it's that the richer person in this case is oblivious to how that difference affects their dynamic and has never had to stop and think about it. This can really rub people the wrong way if you've experienced it, even when you care for that person dearly.

Yeah, exactly. And it's not about feeling inferior, it's about feeling a sense of distance. It's about your friends talking about the vacations they went on and you can't contribute to the conversation because your family can't afford to travel. It's about friends talking about a party you weren't invited to. Talking about how delicious a food is around a friend with food allergies that can't eat it. It doesn't have to be a big thing, but the class differences hit especially hard imo

I agree with the replies under this comment, especially the financial/class differences! That is indeed real.

I have a really rich friend and she casually talked about spending 2k dollars on a bag or something. And it made me think how hard it is for me to even earn that money, much less spend it as leisurely as she does. We also went out for food once. Because it was my birthday, I told her it was my treat. But she chose a lot of food and had me worried about the bill. I guess for her it wasn't much but for me, it was. These experiences didn't really make me feel inferior, but I did feel conscious about our financial differences. I'm okay tho. She's my best friend. I often joke about how rich she is with her sometimes lol

For the friend, however, he is constantly reminded of it at home, at school and whenever he's with the 2nd mc/ml. That's why he's probably more conscious about it. Ideally, that shouldn't be how he views things. But realistically, that does happen. You have to accept people take things differently. The world doesn't work one way, much less the ideal way. But the fact that he never was really upfront about it, shows he might be scared of confronting and hurting 2nd mc/ml. That is the case with me and my friend. I dont want her feeling all too conscious about her money. Besides, it'll just make me look jealous or petty if I constantly talk about how rich she is and that she shouldn't flaunt it in my face. Like the friend said, it wasn't the rich guy's fault. It just so happens she was born rich and I wasn't. Sometimes, they probably aren't too conscious about their actions and how privileged they are because for them, it's a normal thing. To some, that's fine. To others, it might seem hard. Especially if reality hits them hard and they're at a situation where it's really really hard to even spend on things (like paycheck to paycheck).

This could all go bad, however, if the friend talked about 2nd mc/ml behind his back, trashtalking him to someone else, and/or using him and all. Maybe he could have confronted 2nd mc/ml a bit lighter or less hurtful, but I guess it was all bottled up in the end so it came out as that. But the fact he tried to be mindful in a way (telling him it wasn't his fault, etc) shows he wasn't gunning to hurt 2nd mc/ml for revenge and all. It was just... a confession of bottled up feelings.

Besides, I think the friend gave a reasonable and practical advice. In a relationship where there's a huge financial difference, if your lover feels the same way as the friend does (or worst, much more inferior and sensitive about it) and there's no getting over such a matter, adding the pressure from the rich guy's side of the family, you'll only constantly fight and end up breaking up (even hating each other too). Again, ideally that should not be that way. But realistically, it happens.