I don't really think she's a teen, still sure we all make mistakes but when Mr seal confronted her, she only excused herself, that "apology" was so lame and her reason too was lame cause she only thought about herself, cause did they seem sad and lonely like her? Absolutely not, so yeah it's not really a reason to be stupid, like face the consequences of her own actions and grow up.
I’m confused, how is her intention good? She doesn’t want them to be seen as different because she cares about them but she’s still thinking “oh if the child doesn’t have a mum or dad then that’s bad” but regardless of that, both of them clearly love the daughter. So what makes her intention of signing and thinking that they shouldn’t be tgt due to prejudice any good? It can be understandable but good? I’m not sure. It’s not a good intention if what you’re doing is hurting someone, knowingly bc she IS aware that both of them like each other AND that they’re both adults who know way more than she does. Not bashing you btw I’m just trying to understand!
of signing the seal dude up for a dating app**
I only based on her recalling her past, which I think wasn't so far off so I thought she's a teen. But, going to the point. That's why I said it's true that she is selfish. She only thought about what SHE THINKS is right & approriate to do. Most people who act selfishly do not & will not apologize properly (or never even apologize at all) because they only think about themselves, their pain, their pleasure, what is the "right & just" that is tied to their own ideals. In addition, I also pointed out that her situation is TOTALLY DIFFERENT. However, all she can think of is they're gay -> they'll be ostracized -> they'll be lonely -> they'll (especially Mr. Kwon) be like me. Sure they don't look lonely now, but for her, it will just be a fleeting moment & they'll eventually feel it, so I will do something to prevent it. There is still the good intention, thinking about the future repercussion or pain comsidering the LGBT standing in their country. But, I never said that we can just accept this as a fleeting oopsie. Near the end, after everything putting into perspective, I still said that what she did was wrong. I only want to recognize her point of view but still not ignoring the fact that what she did is wrong.
Her intentions are good in a way that she don't want them (or mostly Mr. Kwon) to be ostracized for liking a guy. It's more because not because she doesn't have friends (cuz clearly she had), but it's because of parental neglect. Let's not forget that primary care givers play an intense role in the way their child act & thinks. When parents ignore their child, regardless of how many friends they have, there will always be that 'I feel lonely' & 'I'm not loved' feeling. From that, she feels different because her friends are being picked up by their parents, and maybe other displays that make her think that all other parents love their child except her. That's where it all connects, the feeling of lonliness. It's totally different from being ostracized for becoming a part of the LGBT, but like I said, it's true that she is selfish. So her selfishness led her to neglect all the other details & just think of what she thought was relatable to her. Like what I mentioned in my other reply, her train of thought is they're gay -> they'll be ostracized -> they'll be lonely -> they'll (especially Mr. Kwon) be like me. In her mind, that ending, being like her, should absolutely never happen. That's why she took the matter into her own hands, even though it's none of her concern. She look too far ahead the future. For that, I would say that her concern is inevitable considering the LGBT stand in Korea. Her intentions were for the future pain (which, as we all know, we cannot define & decide what happens in the future) they might need to face that she thinks should never happen. BUT, again... BUT, that doesn't excuse her for what she did. This is just me giving a perspective of what might have been her thoughts about the situation because I've read comments that they do not understand the connection & just blantantly hating on her, which I know is valid too.
Thank you for explaining! I get it now. I agree that she is very selfish, while I get that she has this sort of mentality it’s super frustrating
No worries! But then again, as the topic title suggests, it's just my take & others' opinion are still valid. It really is frustrating tho! I just hope that on the next chapters she realizes what she did and actually apologize sincerely.
I agree, this topic is interesting and hopefully it is done well in the upcoming chapters
I know it can be infuriating. What she experienced was totally different from what she saw, sure. It was selfish, true. I'm not trying to say that what she did was correct & justifiable because all of your frustrations is valid. But, let's leave her some room to make mistakes. She may have interfered with them, but all of that was out of concern. How? She said BEING DIFFERENT IS LONELY. That's the point. It may have been a different "different" situation, but the point still stands, since gay couples, or the LGBT community entirely, is different, and taboo in Korea. Her intentions are good, her concern is valid & true, but the way she acted on it was wrong. Remember that she's still young. Most teens that age are naturally selfish, takes almost everthing to their own hands, and think that they can solve everything & anything on their own, even if that problem is totally not about them.