Don't get it either. Probably because of hardcore fans who think their idols should only focus on their fans and fans only, but that's just my opinion/thinking of it.
I always feel bad for idols when it comes to dating. They’re their own people before they are idols and have their own lives
because the fans think that their idols are cheating on them... some of them think that it distracts them from being an idol or from their comebacks, and some are just plain jealous. stans nowadays are so weird, they are always so focused on making scandals
Idk... I think many kr stans like to act delulu that their biases are their boyfriends? It's weird af... and now even interactions between gg and bg are weird because they need to do anything to avoid suspicion...
Some crazy fans considered it as "cheating" on them. But other fans, especially the older ones are more care about the idol's image, even as a fans they would be mindful of their own action (especially if they're fansite or fan manager) because it can damage their idol's reputation. Also, this is a public secret, older fans (noona/eonnie) like new rookie group more because they have this clumsy yet sincere charm, because the idol just debuted, they're still looking like they works really hard, so these fans like them even more (though they mostly leave the fandom after the rookie period ended).
In this case, dating scandal can be viewed as how they're insincere about their career. There are probably thousands group or soloist debuting each year, and only the top 10 can last for more than 5 years. Rookie is an unstable period where you need to constantly competeting with other groups that debuted alongside you. If they caught dating scandal, especially during rookie periods (and they're an idol group member), these fans would be thinking like "Are you serious? The other members are working hard to practice and get a job to promote the group and you have time to date?" or things like that. It really happens because I read the exact comments on Pann when a rookie idol have a dating scandal, though I forget which idol it is.
kpop industry sells the fantasy of idols being fans’ lovers and that causes fans to have strong reactions to idols dating as they feel like they own the idols. very very toxic and demeaning thing.
I don’t understand why dating is so taboo???