I agree with you 100%. I am very similar. There I was crying throughout the entire situation as I read and it came to an abrupt halt. Like where was the emotional understanding and support. It was just like Nathen diagnosed Andrew’s “problem” and then told him to find a cure himself. Straight up told him to “deal with it” but “without” him. Which is hard to understand because again he also “liked him” when you quote on quote “care” but not enough to stay. The other thing is this issue regarding their relationship is one thing and maybe Andrew has other more bigger problems to work on but it’s not like Andrew was asking him to solve all his problems. If being perfect and issue-free were a requirement for dating, no one would be dating. It’s like he was telling him to be the perfect person in order to be in a relationship with him. Idk maybe I’m reaching but no one is perfect I guess we’ll see soon in the upcoming chapters
You said it best!
"Straight up told him to “deal with it” but “without” him."
"Liked him or care for him but not enough to stay"
And you're right, entering into a relationship doesnt mean oh hey you have to be perfect kinds of people to be lovers, no. Its accepting each other and standing with them through thick and thin. I think Nathan has the bigger character problem, not Andrew. And I couldnt imagnne how they would be together if Nathan wouldnt have a big vharacter development.
I thought i was the only who was sad about their past, but seems like a lot of people feel that way too. I'm just so sad that despite liking Andrew and hearing the reason, Nathan's emotionally not attaching himself personally with Andrew. He understands everything Andrew feels (even more than Andrew himself unferstands) but its like he's giving him tough love or giving up on him easily cause Andrew cant sort himself out yet?
I dont know if its just me but its like Nathan cant be with Andrew if he has to deal with Andrew's internal turmoil during their relationship. God now this makes me cry. Seeing Andrew's past is just heartbreaking.
It is true, we're the only ones who can save ourselves. But maybe what's painful here for me is the fact that Nathan admittedly likes Andrew but is unwilling to wait for him until he settles his turmoil or embrace Andrew with his internal problems. Its just, as someone who cant help but empathize with people, i cant grasp the idea of liking someone, wanting to be in a relationship with someoneel but unwilling to emotionally invest yourself with them.... I... I need to hear other's thoughts on this. Maybe my perspective is singular and limiting based on my own sentiments.