Ngl, I think it was pretty obvious since he never displayed any interest in the girls who were at least somewhat close with him. He also I think was a bit clumsy when he was first initiating during sex, so it kind of gave it away. I guess some people are dense so I understand that you might have thought otherwise. I’ve been reading this shit since I was 11 or 12 and I’m now in my 20s so I’m basically used to the nuances that most authors give since I’ve taken classes where we pick apart details in films and different forms of media.
You sound like those people who go “Heh… I guess you can call me a genius *smirk*” what I am saying is that it is cringe to call people dense over them not knowing something especially something so inconsequential like that. Good for you if you knew something someone else didn’t but no need to be an ass about it. I also presumed he didn’t do anything but ultimately it is one of those things that are like “ whatever”.
Lol, I aspire to be that person. It never happened to me irl since I have autistic tendencies. I usually find solace in entertainment since everybody tends to be not as complex as in real life, so I’d more dense in person. But yea, I guess I shouldn’t have been an ass about it, but people called me out for liking certain aspects of bad characters before just because I didn’t understand it the way I was ‘supposed’ to. This is probably me just projecting tho
Ur just jealous and have an inferiority complex lmao
It was pretty damn obvious to anyone who has 2 brains cells.
Doesn’t take a genius.
I’m a major moron btw but we still al knew.
Wait lemme apologize for my comment LOL
I didn’t realize they actually straight up called the other person dense T-T
I thought u got offended by them saying it was obvious
Lmao, I hate my autocorrect so I can understand if u thought smth else with my comment :D
Not that. It’s typically rude to call people “dense” or try to one up them or belittle them. If the people around you do that normally then I suggest getting a better group of friends :D
You coulda stopped at “I thought it was obvious” and explaining the reasons why it was obvious to you, but “I guess some people are dense so I understand” is extremely rude and backhanded. If people rudely called you out for stuff, doesn’t mean u should become an ass and treat other ppl rudely too.
Ur right!! I’ll try to be more aware next time
Telling someone who said that they didn’t know something that it was pretty obvious FOR YOU is never going to be well received. NOTHING good can come out of that conversation and the only thing that you will cause is the other person to feel bad. It’s like if someone came up to you and said “man that test was really hard” and you said “that test was the easiest test ever how did you find it hard?” You have successfully made the other person feel awful and you become the jerk, see? It is better to say NOTHING, not everything needs a reply. Also this comment wasn’t you in particular but it was to clarify why i don’t like those kinds of replies and since the other person has already become aware then this will serve as a lesson I suppose. Have a good day, peace.
Nah at that stage point they’re just too sensitive and take everything personally. I’ve been in plenty of situations where tests were common sense and I felt bad that *I* had to lie and couldn’t celebrate my accomplishment and hardwork paying off or I’m suddenly the jerk. But then they find out you scored very well and now you’re the jerk for not telling them because they’ll accuse you of looking down on them anyways. There’s no winning with overly sensitive people who take everything personally.
People need to learn that it’s okay if other ppl do better, and celebrate/ be happy for each other.
When u get to higher lvl education or grad school u quickly learn smarter ppl are okay with failure, don’t take things personally, and don’t do drama like that. I’ve had so many ppl tell me something I was struggling with was so easy for them, so I’d just ask them to explain, and their explanations makes it so much easier every time.
But regardless, it’s totally okay if something comes to others more naturally than it does to you.
What’s not okay is being rude and putting other ppl down intentionally like “how did u find it hard??” “Haha there’s NO way u don’t get this” etc…
It’s also not okay to pretend it was easy just to boast. I would never do that either.
But yeah can’t live ur life censoring urself at every single step because someone has to make it about themselves. It’s called sharing experiences and different POVs. As long as everyone is respectful, helpful, and no one is looking down on or intentionally insulting others.
Nono please re read my comment I said in the example if someone says that they found something hard and then you say something along the lines of “well it was super easy to me actually” then that is not ok. You are being condescending in the hypothetical scenario(mine). Nowhere did I say that you would have to lie but if your only way of celebrating is by putting the other person down then that speaks volumes. Never did I mention when you are casually ASKING for help. In your scenario, where you deliberately tell someone in HOPES of receiving help is so much different from a simple comment made to fill in silence. This is literally what I said in my first comment I feel like we are going in circles. Ultimately, you repeated what I said at the beginning even though I don’t know how it was concluded anywhere that it wasn’t ok to celebrate your own success.
No I get your comment. I’m saying that’s not condescending. Not everything is about you. No need to take it so personally. Me saying “it was easy for me” is simply that. It doesn’t mean “ur stupider than me/ any less than me for not finding it easy too” nor does it mean “I’m smarter than you”. that’s what I meant it’s not cool to take things personally and make it about you. It’s not condescending. People are good at different things. One person can find a bio exam easy, the other could do great in maths and physics, and others can be great at sports and arts. Just cuz *I* find something hard, doesn’t mean others can’t say it was easy for them.
At least imo. But we can agree to disagree. I’m not one to push my views on others.
Just because you don’t find something offensive personally doesn’t mean that other people won’t. That doesn’t make them sensitive, you just need perspective. Of course, I understand that you cannot please everyone so I understand that sentiment you shared, however, this topic of conversation is about something within reason and something that is doable(read my #2 reply) . I was talking ONLY about the people who are being a jerk to others even if it is unconsciously. I never said that people don’t have have different talents or that they are better at certain things then others. It is about the APPROACH. This is basic human decency. Ultimately, it is all about ego and one upping someone in a conversation(for people like the scenario). If what you are seeking out of a conversation is to leave feeling smarter than the other person(as in, not interchanging ideas to become a better version of yourself but instead become better than the OTHER) than you are a jerk. Confident people do not do this. People aren’t too sensitive, general society just has become too insensitive.
FIRST??? Omg I thought he fukec around with the other girl guess they meant in a different away