THANK YOUUUUU IT IS LITERALLY A STRETCH that's what I keep thinking like can you imagine !!! And then people are reallyyy being insufferable now that Ash gave Lyle a safe word and yes I agree that it's good that he did that ofc but I'm sorry do we really think Lyle would ever safe word out if he thinks that Ash is going to hate him? Lyle is so insecure about Ash's love that he would never want to do that unless it was truly way way way way beyond his capabilities especially since they've never had an important and clear conversation about it you know what I mean? Like they need to have a serious convo that's like you MUST be honest I will love you regardless etc this is important bc (importantly) I want you to like this too lol like Lyle is so obsessed with Ash's pleasure bc he thinks otherwise he will be left. He's simply not in the head space to actually safely consent idk ....
Fr dude! And Lyle clearly isn’t comfortable with bdsm either, Lyle’s falling in love for the first time, opening up his heart, and is enjoying how sweet and caring it is to be with a partner instead of having cold uncaring sex with strangers. Ash is on a completely different path, he had a partner who cheated on him (which is where I bet he picked up on the idea that partners like to hear you talk about them sleeping with other people) the more experience you have with relationships the easier it is to get into the bdsm sene but for Lyle, he clearly needs time to just be in a happy vanilla relationship. Ash should’ve just expressed what he’s into and let Lyle explore those interests on his own time so it’s his own choice and to be certain he’s actually interested in it. And I hate that Ash used that toy that Lyle hated, punishments in bdsm don’t have to be like that and shouldn’t be how a newbie gets introduced the that sene it’s disrespectful to his bodily autonomy and he’s had zero training to give him an idea of what’s going on/what he’s supposed to do.
okay not to be a complainer but I would like Ash to also apologize in a general manner (i.e., "I'm sorry my friends said that in front of you, that was rude." or "I'm sorry I didn't clear that up right after my friends talked to you about it." or "I'm sorry you were feeling so down about yourself because of something my friends said."). It doesn't have to be admitting fault of some kind but I feel bad that Lyle keeps on apologizing and assuming all blame for this argument when like... Ash's friends came in and started shit + Ash knew they mentioned some of this in front of Lyle DAY 1 and didn't clarify anything. It's no one's fault, really, except those bumass besties of his. Apologizing in this way just feels like the polite thing to do idk