It's not about meaning something. It's about trust.
When you trust someone with your innermost secrets you expect the same from the other.
It’s selfish to expect someone else to spill their innermost secrets tho just bc yall close. I’m really close with my friends but I don’t know everything there is to know about them and that is ok. Some of my friends of 10+ years have told me secrets now that we’re adults but only bc they felt ready to. Still I don’t know everything and they don’t have to share everything and that’s ok. They’re their own person. I’m here if they need anything but that doesn’t mean they’re not their own person.
That’s just my take on things. Just bc we don’t have the same worldview doesn’t mean one’s wrong and one’s correct, our views are just different that’s all.
No I was just explaining, I didn't give my view on things.
I do think that a certain level of trust is needed to properly care for someone. Because until you trust someone there are certain walls around your heart you don't totally let down.
I'm saying this as someone with severe trust issues. Most of my hangouts are my friends yapping and me listening.
They've confronted me about it too and confessed they felt they were less important to me because they told me everything but they didn't know me as well back and I agreed with them.
It hurts when it feels like someone is just putting up with you r problems, it's different when it's both people supporting each other.
And I recognize that. Even as I hold a lot of things I'll never say close to my chest I want to be more open and I want to trust my friends with my secrets and emotions more. That's why I relate to Dan I. For a lot of my life I felt like an outsider so I acted like one, but that only hurt my friends more.
I'm not saying you have to tell everyone everything. We don't owe anyone anything so personal.
But if you want a healthy friendship and you want it to mean something, then yes, trust is paramount.
Memory loss is a huge deal and not as personal as, say, sexual assault. While keeping quiet about one is understandable because of trauma and how others will start treating u afterwards, memory loss is not so sensitive. To keep quiet about that is a huge deal imo and I would feel hurt if my friends never told me.
Yeoryoung wears her heart on her sleeve. She deserves a friendship where she feels reassured.
I understand that she’s upset and asking if Dani was ever planning on telling her the truth. I don’t understand how she perceived this as “ig I never meant anything to you even if you meant the world to me”. Looking at Dani’s personality, she would’ve pushed this down and found it hard to tell her BECAUSE Yeoryeong meant a lot to her.