I accidently put thumbs down. But thanks for the message! I am also trying to change my ways and not follow the path of my parents. It's hard, but I see a bright future!
Thanks for this perspective. It’s good to learn the cognitive root to our actions. Why do I do this like that? Why do I react to that like this? Why do those things make me feel this way? If you don’t figure yourself out by the time you’re 35 years old, you’ll just be living by habit of reactions.
I totally agree with this, physical punishment usually never leads to productive teachings for children. It just leads to children creating unhealthy behaviors, habits, or defense mechanisms for themselves. Having an emotionally/physically turbulent childhood may also affect them as adults if not properly addressed. I am really interested to know your perspective on how she handled Jace’s situation? It was a very round about and honestly mentally fatiguing/potentially traumatizing way of “correcting” the child. Do you think there could have been a better way to handle it or do you think this was a “good” last resort set up? I did believe that Jace’s behavior should be corrected before he hurt more people, especially after he threw a vase at the maid but i found myself questioning the mc’s method at times. Sorry if im asking a lot of questions, i’ve always been interested in child development and I liked your perspective. I wanted to now what you thought of this, If it’s not too inconvenient for you.
Oh, I did find the mc using Mirinae concerning. The whole set up was a bit grandeur and there was definitely unnecessary fatigue for people who shouldn’t have been involved, like Mirinae.
Did you know that when you say "I'll never be like my parents, who did x y z"
You may, inadvertently, end up actually copying them?
Maybe not exactly, but the mechanism behind it will be the same.
Let's say your parents used to get really angry in a discussion, scream, curse, slam doors, basically do anything but admit they're wrong or address the issue
You may think "they were horrible, I never wanna be like that"
But then, when there's a discussion, you get real quiet, give the other person the cold silence treatment, go out without letting the other know when/if you're coming back. Objectively you're still avoiding addressing the conflict exactly like your parents, but you're "disguising" it in a different way.
Same mechanism, different ways to emulate it.
Why am I saying all this?
Bc this comment section has been filled with uncomfortable comments in my opinion
Of people saying kids deserve get beaten the crap out of them, that "it worked on them" and they've "survived"
Dude
You're all just copying and pasting your parents, exactly like this spoiled kid
When you're this small, you don't understand why exactly people do what they do, and you just wanna be included and be validated
Now if you, a (supposed) mature adult, has no chill and no level headness to deal with a dumb kid, to the point you have to physically harm them to assert authority, then you're just creating another person who doesn't know how to deal with their emotions and resorts to violence or other unhealthy coping mechanisms when being overwhelmed
I know it seems I'm taking it too seriously, maybe I am, but this topic is not a joke to me
Being beaten did not help me become a better person, not even learn discipline, it only taught me that I shouldn't show my mistakes to my parents and that they don't know how to deal with conflict (which is true to this day, even when they're beyond their 50s)
I hope the author shows how to actually deal with spoiled kids and I hope it doesn't involve humiliating or physically harming this kid over and over