No I have a friend that jokes around abt needing new friends bc we used to yap abt bl a lot. Maybe have a talk with them or try to come up with other things idfk
I can see where they're coming from. Yk how ppl get annoyed when they're talking 2 their friend and its just never ending "i I MISS MY MAN " yea i think that's what's goin on. But u and ur friend are allowed to speak on it, its not illegal lol. If ya'll have seperate interests that's ok! not everyone needs to be included if its not for them (sorry not sorry)
I'm so happy you found someone to talk to about your interests, I never had anyone like that, the fact I read BLs always remained a secret of mine. About your question, not having being there, I cannot know the extent of your friendship with them, but I think that if you're grateful things are as they are now, you've made the right choice. Some years ago, I also separated from a friend of mine because I felt uncomfortable with her for various reasons, and I knew I had done the right thing because I only felt better after that. I hope all go well from now on <3
Thank you. I wish all well for you too. Hopefully you'll find someone irl to talk about bl as well <3
Honestly yes
not your fault. what happens is a lot is people don't like being left out. you left the others out between you two at the time (not your fault). suggestion though if this every pops up again. Hand them a BL manga and say "well, if you want to talk about it with us, read it too" that way it's on them if they don't join in.
i used to nerd out on tons of stuff back in high school. and mind you this was before it was popular to be geeking out on this stuff. Got shamed for being 100% bleeding Star Wars fan. I asked the person if they ever watched it. they said no. told them not to get pissed off at me for talking about what i like with my friends. and if they were my friend, then they would try what i like because i try what they like. that person didn't stick around much longer after that.
saw them a few years ago now and they have kids they can't even have a conversation with because they can't comprehend why people geek out on things. I feel sorry for those people .
I am proud of you for leaving your group to follow what you like. hopefully those that you left behind will see the fun in what you read and join willingly one day. Fingers crossed for you.
+1. And op it doesn't sounds like they were shaming you or ganging up on you if your narration is precise. They were just kinda calling you all out for always having fixated on "same subject" which exclude you two and others on same table. So perhaps y'all can get back together talk more on mutual interest. But if you are happy the way things ended it's fine too. You are not wrong not they are.
yeah lmao? when youre in a group you’re supposed to try and include everyone in the conversation; imagine if they left you out and talked about stuff and inside jokes they know you wouldn’t understand. Feels iffy, right? Plus it doesn’t matter if you’re queer women, it’s still borderline fetishisation if you don’t talk about anything but BL lol. You say you’re queer women so why not also indulge yourself in other queer relationships other than BL?
aside from that, atleast you’re surrounded by people like you now, so it’s fine to constantly talk abt all of that… but atleast try and be including and self aware in a group of people you know doesn’t have much knowledge about the topics you like — you can rant about the stories TO them, cus i do that with my friends
Thank you for your advice <3. I've been friends with them for a whole semester so it was plenty for them to get to know my interests since I also did adjust my humor just to blend in with them. Unfortunately, they weren't in the same boat as me and my friend :< I did recommend a few shows but they never seemed to care whenever I did. They also showed signs of dislike towards me when I'm around so it was pretty obvious we couldn't go together for long. I'm happy with my current friends though! Again thank you so much <3
lmao yeah you are
you're a queer woman who wants to talk about queer things yet you ONLY talk about bl?
it's 1 thing to have an interest in something but another to be obsessed (which you acknowledge due to your topic title)
like do you and your bl obsessed friends talk about anything other than bl bc it's giving npc behavior ngl
Thank you for sharing your opinion <3. Tbf it was the only way I could communicate with anyone since I was the least talkative among the group. I'm grateful for my friend for trying to speak to me through talking about BL. I did try talking about other subjects with them but they seem to dislike it when I talk. Maybe I'm just the problem here and I'm just not realizing it. Thank you for your advice :D
I appreciate the criticism (╥﹏╥). It was kinda difficult to blend in with them since their humor was much more different from where I came from but I still tried the whole semester. I was the first person in the group who felt left out so getting talkative about literally anything made me feel included. But I guess me being the first left out had a reason since some didn't like me at all.
And I'd like to add, I apologize for making it seem like being queer exemplifies me from fetishizing gay men. I do not fetishize anything at all. I began consuming these types of media because the stories always fascinates me. I usually never really care because I am an ace. However, I deeply appreciate your opinion. Thank you so much. ( ◜‿◝ )♡
Yeah, thank you for taking it so well ! It’s sad to hear that you were actually left out first, because that wasn’t the impression i got from the story you told, and i’m glad you are now actually surrounded by people that include you and share your interests. However, even ace people can still fetishise gay men, but i’m sure you’re aware of it yourself. Hopefully you’re just interested in romance and will possibly give other romance couples a try too ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶
why are you apologizing? there's no need to. everyone has a right to like something and enjoy it with friends. if they didn't like you, that's on them. you have better things to do. like read good manga (づ￣ ³￣)づ
I'm a freshman in college and none of my high school friends are in the same major as me so I had to befriend new people so not to feel lonely. Eventually, I did find a friend group where everyone knew no one else so we were all in the same boat. As months goes by, we became more and more close and open with ourselves. I have a particular bias with one of them who also watches bl just like me. I recommended so many bls to her and literally got her into Thai BL and the BL genre in general. When the whole friend group are together, we (me and that friend) would always talk to each other about BL. Until one day, our friends suddenly ganged up on us because of it.
"You two always keep talking about BL, we literally can't relate."
"If y'all won't let us in the conversation might as well talk about something else."
"It's like all you talk about is BL. It's kinda pissing me off."
Yeah, you guessed it right. We were shamed on. After that we didn't talk to each other about BL anymore whenever the friend group was together. In fact, I barely even spoke around them anymore. We were hell of embarrassed. We still did messaged each other on messaging apps and such. But after that specific day, we were kind of closing our doors to them due to shame.
The next semester came it was was all the same, until another one of us had enough with the rest of the friend group. Three of us separated with those people. And now we talk to each other about BL often.
I know that it's not entirely a question cause I am aware that we weren't in the wrong, but man. I was kinda disappointed. They said they were queer like us too. But they shamed on queer women talking about queer stuff :(. I am grateful we separated with them though. But what do you think?