“She should’ve left”? Do you think it’s that easy? Thirteen years. They’ve been together for thirteen years. That’s not just a relationship you can walk away from in a snap. People don’t just leave overnight, especially when they’ve given everything and built their entire life around that person.
Yes, Mincheol is trash. Finally something we can agree on. But calling Naeso weak? No. She wasn’t weak. She was exhausted. She stayed not because she “allowed” the abuse, but because she believed in him. That’s what love does — it makes you hold on, even when it’s slowly killing you. And that doesn’t make her weak. That makes her human.
Also, "anyone who’s with someone who allows them to do anything will turn dark eventually"?? That sounds like you’re saying it’s her fault that he turned into a piece of shit. Let’s be clear. There are plenty of people in relationships where their partner is kind, trusting, and supportive — and they don’t cheat or destroy that person. Why? Because being decent is a choice. Mincheol CHOSE to be selfish. He CHOSE to lie, cheat, and hurt her. That's on him.
And forgiveness? Sure, he might “deserve” forgiveness — from the universe or karma or whatever. But not from Naeso. Not after everything he put her through. She doesn’t owe him closure, healing, or grace. He burned that bridge.
So no. She wasn’t weak. She was human. And she gave that relationship thirteen years of her life. That is not something you throw back at her like it’s her fault she got hurt.
STOP BLAMING HER.
Thank you! i hope this ppl would NEVER be in the same shoes as her because best believe i would say the exact same thing they’re saying to her.
They be blaming everyone except the one who really is to blame. Can’t believe they really read everything from the start to recent update and their take would be “it’s her fault for not leaving” damn. Even saying that she’s refusing intimacy that’s why she got cheated on is soooo LOW.
The man literally is jobless, cheats on her, is addicted to gambling, degrades her, put her into debt, doesn’t even let her eat, put himself over any thing, and manipulates the fvck out of her but sure let’s forgive him cause he’s good looking and hot
true i agree
idk im a psychology major in college so ive read multiple stories that test this, what humans are capable of doing when given absolute power over another. And the results are always the same, they become violent, cruel, and dehumanize them. That does not make that person evil by definition but by situation. So in my opinion mincheol is bad for naesoo but not bad in general, there are glimpses of passion and human like emotions froom him that are deeper than the other characters. He does not deserve her but he does deserve his own happiness, they drew out their relationship for far to long and allowed themselves to be ruined in the process. Naesoo was far to traumatized to even be in a 13 year long relationship anyways so she should honestly be single and try to find herself now. Mincheol saved and ruined her and his time with her should be done but i do not hate him as a character.
Psych major or not, you're still trying to romanticize a man who abused, cheated, and manipulated a woman for 13 years. Saying "he’s not evil, just a product of the situation" is the exact excuse people use to downplay accountability. We’re not talking about some lab experiment here. This is about a man who consciously chose to betray someone who gave up everything for him. That’s not situational. That’s character.
Yes, Mincheol saved Hae Soo when they were young. He protected her, gave her comfort, bought her a phone so they could stay connected. And that’s exactly what makes his betrayal even worse. Because he was someone she trusted. Someone she believed in. And he used that trust to slowly break her down. He didn’t just ruin her. He broke the one person who believed in him the most. You don’t get points for doing the bare minimum in the past when your present self turns into the very thing that destroys her.
Saying he’s “bad for Naesoo but not bad in general” is such a cop-out. That’s like saying an abuser is only abusive in certain relationships, so it doesn’t count. Newsflash — if you’re capable of doing that to one person, especially the one who gave you everything, that IS who you are.
And about those “glimpses of passion” and “human-like emotions”? He had years to show that passion in ways that mattered. He showed pain when she pulled away — not because he loved her, but because he couldn’t stand losing control. His emotions weren’t about her. They were about him.
You say she was “too traumatized to be in a 13-year relationship” as if that justifies how he treated her. You don’t fix a traumatized person by loving them halfway and cheating when it gets inconvenient. You either commit to healing with them or leave — you don’t ruin them further and call it love.
He does not “deserve happiness” in the way you're saying it. Not after what he did. He deserves consequences. He deserves reflection. He deserves to be alone and face the reality of what he did. Happiness doesn’t come from destroying someone and moving on like nothing happened.
So no, you don’t get to excuse him because he had a soft backstory. So did she. The difference is, she gave everything and he threw it away.
You’re allowed to not hate him as a character. That’s your choice. But don’t dress it up like it’s some deep psychological analysis. Let’s be real — he knew exactly what he was doing. He didn’t even feel guilty when Hae Soo caught him cheating. He just stood there, emotionless, like she was overreacting. And in his head? He thought all he had to do was give her time and she’d come crawling back like always. That’s not heartbreak. That’s pure arrogance.
What a disgusting, entitled mindset. And no matter how much you want to understand him, you don’t get to justify his actions. Understanding isn't the same as excusing. You can analyze his behavior all you want, but don’t twist it into something that makes him look like a victim when he was the one doing all the damage.
Psych major or not, you're still trying to romanticize a man who abused, cheated, and manipulated a woman for 13 years. Saying "he’s not evil, just a product of the situation" is the exact excuse people use to downplay accountability. We’re not talking about some lab experiment here. This is about a man who consciously chose to betray someone who gave up everything for him. That’s not situational. That’s character.
Yes, Mincheol saved Hae Soo when they were young. He protected her, gave her comfort, bought her a phone so they could stay connected. And that’s exactly what makes his betrayal even worse. Because he was someone she trusted. Someone she believed in. And he used that trust to slowly break her down. He didn’t just ruin her. He broke the one person who believed in him the most. You don’t get points for doing the bare minimum in the past when your present self turns into the very thing that destroys her.
Saying he’s “bad for Naesoo but not bad in general” is such a cop-out. That’s like saying an abuser is only abusive in certain relationships, so it doesn’t count. Newsflash — if you’re capable of doing that to one person, especially the one who gave you everything, that IS who you are.
And about those “glimpses of passion” and “human-like emotions”? He had years to show that passion in ways that mattered. He showed pain when she pulled away — not because he loved her, but because he couldn’t stand losing control. His emotions weren’t about her. They were about him.
You say she was “too traumatized to be in a 13-year relationship” as if that justifies how he treated her. You don’t fix a traumatized person by loving them halfway and cheating when it gets inconvenient. You either commit to healing with them or leave — you don’t ruin them further and call it love.
He does not “deserve happiness” in the way you're saying it. Not after what he did. He deserves consequences. He deserves reflection. He deserves to be alone and face the reality of what he did. Happiness doesn’t come from destroying someone and moving on like nothing happened.
So no, you don’t get to excuse him because he had a soft backstory. So did she. The difference is, she gave everything and he threw it away.
You’re allowed to not hate him as a character. That’s your choice. But don’t dress it up like it’s some deep psychological analysis. Let’s be real — he knew exactly what he was doing. He didn’t even feel guilty when Hae Soo caught him cheating. He just stood there, emotionless, like she was overreacting. And in his head? He thought all he had to do was give her time and she’d come crawling back like always. That’s not heartbreak. That’s pure arrogance.
What a disgusting, entitled mindset. And no matter how much you want to understand him, you don’t get to justify his actions. Understanding isn't the same as excusing. You can analyze his behavior all you want, but don’t twist it into something that makes him look like a victim when he was the one doing all the damage.
Exactly. Like be f**king for real. The bar is in hell if we’re out here justifying a man’s abuse because “he’s hot” or “he cared once.” What kind of twisted mindset is that? He’s not misunderstood — he’s just a walking red flag in human form.
He did everything wrong. Cheated. Lied. Gambled their life away. Made her starve. Gaslit her. Made her take on debts he caused. Treated her like sh*t in their own house. But somehow the takeaway is, “well she stayed, so it’s on her”? No. Just no.
People love to act like leaving is easy, like you just wake up and say “yeah I’m done.” When you’ve been manipulated and broken down for years, you don’t even realize how deep you’ve sunk until it’s too late. That’s what abusers like him thrive on — control and silence.
So yeah, let’s stop babying grown-ass men who know exactly what they’re doing and start holding them accountable. Hae Soo isn’t weak — she’s a survivor. The real clowns are the ones excusing his behavior like he’s a misunderstood prince instead of the trashbag he really is.
Glad you see it clearly. At least someone still has brain cells left.
I feel like people will bite me on my ●ss if I just stated my opinion, or Self conscious, but please let me be ..... I feel so bad for Mincheol. He is not a good husband, but he is not the worst. Please don't bite me.