that's the perks of being people pleaser. but I fully understand about you felt annoyed to this kind of people lol
i dont think mr. lim could be identified as a people pleaser, i think its more of quite the opposite -- his altruism where he puts others above himself. its why hes such a well-rounded character.
to me, it reads less like 'one convo fixed everything' and more like that conversation was the final push after months of subconscious wrestling. sometimes people need an outside voice to echo what they already feel but can’t fully admit to themselves.
i think the point more how its trying to highlight how guilt/obligation can cloud judgment until someone outright gives you 'permission' to prioritize yourself—but if that’s the case, it could’ve been fleshed out more.
I’m both excited and annoyed, like bro if all it took was one convo telling you to be selfish etc for you to quickly change your mind then COULDNT YOU HAVE THOUGHT IT YOURSELF?/? HOW MANY MONTHS DOD IT TAKE, and it’s not like it’s a case of him beating himself up endlessly for his divorce and needing specifically her forgiveness and permission to go be with someone selfishly, like the whole reason was leaving him cause he’s too young and you wanted him to be with people his age and that reason hasn’t changed so why did this one convo send you running I’m annoyed