I feel so sad for

the 26 yr old is the product of the 6 to -->26 yr old him. Please turn your brain on.

That's why we have THERAPY?

And also it's like this situation (a kid his father is a big drinker and an abuser, he grow old and became that. So we feel sad for him as a kid not him as an adult) Jjk is not a drinker but a heartless person that he won't feel bad for a person that shares the same pain as him

Why would Jjk out of all people go to therapy on his own ? How realistic would that be ? Does he even know what therapy is ? It doesn’t make sense to feel bad for the 6 yr old but not the adult that’s only a product of such a situation. If he had normal parents and a normal situation where he’s taught to love and be vulnerable, do you think he’d still be the way he is ? Don’t you think, by witnessing his upbringing, that he had full potential to be a great human being ? He’s not heartless, if so he wouldn’t have kept his words as many times as he did, nor would he be so kind to the elderly. He’s just learned to focus on himself and his survival and that does make a person selfish and unable to think from other’s standpoint.

26 year-old jjk would know what therapy is and also, it does make sense to feel bad for him as young person cuz kid is a kid no matter what they did but an adult is when u think properly like would u choose to treat ppl the same way u parents did or would you be a better person? And also jjk knew what love and warmth cuz of coach's mother. If an abuser abused a kid cuz he was abused as a kid, would you feel bad for him as an adult and also blame the parents only cuz that is the product for what they did and you wouldn't blame the abuser as an adult? Or would you blame the abuser too cuz he is an adult who thinks properly?

He doesn’t even know what foreplay is. Nor does he know any board games, I’m pretty sure he doesn’t know therapy nor its purpose. Specially being South Korean, therapy isn’t really popular. A person is a product of their environment whether they like it or not. Think of how hard it is for you to learn something new, to lose weight or change your life in any other way, even the most willing and motivated people struggle. To want change you have to know that living in another way is a thing and that it’s worthy, you have to know that it’s possible and have a great support system. The only behaviors he’s reproducing from his parents are his mother’s avoidance and his father's selfishness. He’s never beat Dan. We have no proof that the coach’s mom treated him like her kid. There were many children at that gym, there’s no way he was taught how to love and how to cherish others. Otherwise he’d still be close to them. Specially being neglected, he doesn’t seem to have made a single friend. As for abusers it’s very different, JJK is selfish, at most rough but he’s not abusive. His relationship with Kim Dan is toxic but that’s only due to the nature of their relationship (prostitution). He’s very different from a child molester or any other kind of abusers. Those people should be blamed for their actions and society also has a share of responsibility for not helping break the cycle.

He seriously won't stop following dan, even tho Dan said no and also he is like forcing dan to say yes, you can't say (Dan agreed again it's his own fault) no, it's a forced yes. Yes jjk is not an abuser it was an example and also I didn't say he was a molester, but he is a fat asshole who treats ppl that did right for him with disrespect, society is not to blame for not breaking the cycle. Society is ppl and jjk is a person, each one of them is responsible like jjk. Even tho he wasn't rich growing up yet he acts like a rich spoiled brat even tho he knows how it feels to be poor. He is like if I want it, I WANT IT, that what he did to dan. At the beginning he treated dan badly but Dan agreed to it knowing the consciousness but seriously he won't leave dan even tho he said no. Jjk is a selfish self-centered asshole. Yes I feel bad for him as a kid only, but if ur gonna blame his childhood only for his actions leaving the fact that he is a 26 year-old adult that thinks before speaking and knows what nice feels like cuz of the coach's mother, yeah that doesn't make sense

If JJK wasn't there Dan would've died. Ok it's wrong of him to obsess over Dan but let's not act like they are not forever linked together (Dan's debt) and that Dan's life IS better with him in it. I'll refresh your memory but Dan got assaulted and beaten really badly by mobsters and was saved by JJK. Dan was going to be homeless without JJK's intervention. He was also about to be jobless or exhausted with part time jobs without JJK's offer. No clinic or hospital would hire him in Seoul where his grandma had the best chance of making it. The treatment was too expensive for him to pay with other jobs. JJK has SAVED Kim Dan multiple times, yes that doesn't give him the right to treat him like shit or rape him but you can't deny that Dan is better off with JJK. As for the "rape" allegations when Kim Dan is having a flashback of his previous assaults (doctor and mobsters) he doesn't picture JJK in it. He says its hard on him but he defended JJK by saying that it wasn't okay to call him "trash". Also you know it's for plot purposes and the readers want to SEE JJK grovel. How can he grovel if Dan is reciprocating ? How can he beg and grovel if he doesn't pursue Dan ? The author is giving y'all what you want to see. He doesn't act like a rich spoiled brat because he literally despises expensive gifts. He is selfish and poor people can be selfish too. That's it, he's rather generous with his funds and obliging with others if he's in a good mood. Yes he is selfish and puts himself first in all situations, that is expected of someone who survived abuse (specially the neglect kind). I don't agree with you, if Dan said no at the beginning he would've called any of his other hookers. There's literally a scene of him at a gay vip bar where he goes for hook ups. He had his phone ready and was dialing another number. He simply liked Dan at first sight and as expected treated him like a prostitute. Yes he is selfish and self-centered, we all knew that when we begun reading the manhwa. I disagree with your take that he was raised by the coach's mother, all we see is them feeding him, and he did become the way he is and I don't think that's a coincidence or that he was so evil as a little guy that he kept this personality growing up. Okay anyway you are entitled to your feelings. I Just wanted to open your eyes to the fact that people are more subject to determinism than you think. I also believe that society is responsible for certain crimes at least partially, because you can see when certain programs are implemented there are less crimes etc. When I say "society" I don't mean you and me and your neighbor, I mean the structures : the judicial system, the education system, foster care system, youth protection programs etc. In JJK's case, I wonder why he wasn't reported missing from school ? Were there no social services that would visit his home ? Were there no food banks closed by he could've gone to instead of resorting to stealing ? Do you blame 6 yr old him for stealing ? For getting into fights ? Do you believe that just by virtue of aging people magically know better ? When you turned 18 did you magically know all that there was to know or did someone have to teach you and point you to resources ? I'm just extending the character some grace even if he might not deserve it because there's no point in hating him. It's better to understand why people do what they do to be able to prevent it than just hate and shame them to the point they wouldn't even be interested to change. Obviously it's not our job but it is necessary to understand others to build a better society for all. Hopefully I made you curious a little.

Dude that is seriously too long, I can't read all of this.

cant reply to sephy cuz their ass blocked me LOL but anyway, I read what they said and: yap yap yap. mingwa isnt giving us what we want to see, shes trying to gain him sympathy points. putting rape in quotations as if it didnt literally happen. "if dan said no" dan did say no, guess what jaekyung did? threatened him, bribed him. JK already paid off his debt, hes using kim dan for his own selfish desires, JK being in Kim Dan's life is sure, making him FIANCIALLY better off, but mentally/emotionally hes destroying him.

I said at the beginning to sephy that Dan said yes at the first season ( which I didn't say anything else about) but in the second season he was dead ass declining him and jjk won't having it, even when Dan said yes again it was not a yes it was a forced yes + he is tired. So feeling sorry for young jjk cuz he is a kid is right but not for adult Jjk that is acting like a spoiled brat is valid and its not wrong

Finally I've read it all. If ur read mine again or understanded it, you wouldn't need to write all of this. First of all I mentioned the actions of S2 not S1, and I said "Dan agreed knowing the consequences" (oh shit I miss wrote it and wrote consciousness sorry about that). So in S2 Dan denied him many times, and you think that jjk "begging" Dan is for us (for the plot and the viewers), ur wrong. Jjk is not begging, he is demanding. He is acting like a spoiled brat. You said "he is not a spoiled brat he literally denied all the expensive gifts" right but (spoiled brat is a person who is selfish and expect things to go their way and everyone will do that for them) and jjk is no difference from that concept. And you said it yourself he would get another person to sleep with him, and sadly things won't go his way, so goes back to force Kim dan, and he is angry that Dan won't fix his "problem", which he need a mirror (let's kinda pretend that he wants Kim dan to be healthy for dan's sake not for his vision and so things goes as its planned, also that is his main reason, his feelings isn't really a reason for him and it's extra for the plot)