
I don’t think you properly read or you chose not to understand. Not to sound like a jack ass but I thought it was obvious he’s the “outsider”, he is the “change”, a new factor in Ian and TJ’s world or specifically Ian.
What do you mean by get a grip? So far he has been the one to prioritize Ian. I think he has gotten a good grip than TJ has within these decade of “relationship”.
Ian waits desperately for a man that wouldn’t put a label on their “relationship”, and Jo is ready to. He doesn’t want to be in the past whereas TJ stays in and continues to, and Ian wants normalcy or peace, not gang world.
Jo can give him those. Hence: “outsider”/“new factor”/“change”/perhaps difference would be a better word for it.
why is Jo even part of the story? i hate his “i can change him” complex, dude get a grip and leave to university immediately