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REAL!
of course sometimes disabled people have to rely on others sometimes even if we don’t wish to, so instead, making it easier to do things by themselves, help when they ask for it etc,
and let them have the autonomy they yearn for should be the goal. They will still need to rely sometimes but if they have take away their right to chose things for themselves, you are just disabling them further.
I think what people get wrong is that support is only "support" if someone asks for it, irrespective if they're disabled or not. Smothering someone and taking away their autonomy is not being supportive. By being so overprotective and overbearing like his brother, you're just constantly reminding them of their disability and hindering their life even more. There is no standard "normal life" for anyone. Everyone has a different kind of "normal life". So bashing them for trying to live their own kind of normal is just plain cruelty in my eyes.