100% I get people are biased because we are following the MC's POV, but like, it is severely clouding some people's judgement. She did nothing wrong to the MC, they're just not compatible, and that happens. I think some people also just like, can't imagine a break up where both parties were essentially faultless, which says more about them. The mismatch thing goes both ways too, I'm very go with the flow and I think I'd hate dating a person who's always hustling and super driven. It would be exhausting to have to deal with someone like that for long periods of time. Doesn't mean there's anything wrong with their lifestyle/them as a person, it just doesn't match with mine. Also ladies, get your bar out of hell if you tolerate this sort of mismatch of life styles when you date. Your partner should match your energy most of the time.
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Holy shit u need some type of award
for those hating on his ex, you guys really need to stfu.
you cry and whine that women should have a backbone and know what they want, but when they ACTUALLY do, suddenly it becomes a problem. make it make sense.
1) everyone moves at their own pace in life, true. but that doesn’t mean she’s obligated to wait for him. did she call him an asshole? did she sabotage him? did she abandon him without explanation? no. she simply acknowledged the reality, their timelines were different, and it wasn’t going to work. so, she ended it. that’s maturity.
2. JUST BECAUSE HE'S A GOOD PERSON DOESN'T MEAN HE'S THE RIGHT PERSON.
3. missing the person and the memories you shared is normal, because yes, they did love each other. but love alone isn’t enough if the relationship isn’t sustainable. if your fundamental lifestyles don’t align, it won’t last, no matter how much chemistry you have. it will, in fact, only breed resentment as time passes and the issue continues to be ignored. they did a good job understanding this and ending it early, even.
Imagine this,
you’re a hardworking woman who wakes up early, has a clear vision, goals, and drive. meanwhile, your partner just does the bare minimum, prefers to “go with the flow,” only puts in effort when pushed, and doesn’t have much direction. that doesn’t make him a bad guy, but fundamentally, you’re on different levels.
and she’s ALLOWED to want more, someone just as passionate, driven, and reliable as she is. someone who matches her energy.
this is such a basic concept. what’s disturbing is how one-sided the butchering has been. and honestly? I’m especially disappointed in fellow women for tearing her down instead of understanding her. do better.