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Wow this is a great explanation of what's likely going on here. Made me understand Yunoh's POV much better. (Although i do still feel the crux of their problem is that Haewon said he'll date him so he won't move out and not because of any romantic feelings.)
So do you think such a person should enter into a relationship when he/she is clearly not ready? If you know it's beyond you, why not also think about the other person and how he or she will feel? Not everything revolves around us.
You guys just don’t get it. I mean I honestly don’t get it either, I think it just comes with anxiety.
When I get into arguments with my friend or sibling and they change a certain thing they do… I it makes me feel so anxious, there’s just this weird unpleasant uncomfortable feeling in my chest.
And I’m just like why are you doing this? Why are you changing because of me? And I just start feeling like I’m being too childish or too demanding. And I start getting depressed or ashamed or I get angry with myself or with the other person. I’m managing better now. lol
I think t’s called a change-back reaction in psychology.
If there is a certain dynamic in the relationship for so long like for Yun-oh and Heawon (since yun-oh was in middle school) that change is gonna be uncomfortable. It’s hard to go from the well known well established predictable relationship even though toxic to this new un predictable new dynamic. I think it’s really realistic that Yun-Oh is behaving this way. And also his frontal lobe(brain part) isn’t fully developed yet.
Also Haewon is doing really great trying to reach out and trying to solve the situation (with a more developed brain)
And he also had a change back reaction of his own.
Remember when Yun-Oh was trying to be more independent and pull away? He was like no change back! Continue being the little brother that I need to protect and he started following every thing that Yun Oh wanted and said okay let’s fuck/date (it was more than that but you get the idea)