Wow this is a great explanation of what's likely going on here. Made me understand Yunoh's POV much better. (Although i do still feel the crux of their problem is that Haewon said he'll date him so he won't move out and not because of any romantic feelings.)
So do you think such a person should enter into a relationship when he/she is clearly not ready? If you know it's beyond you, why not also think about the other person and how he or she will feel? Not everything revolves around us.
Some people can't really help feeling that way, it doesn't matter that they know its wrong like in yunhos case, they just keep doing that same thing and its really frustrating but is also pretty deep rooted. Also like they said, yunhos brain hasn't completely developed to understanding and communicate, he's confused as shit and feels shitty and probably is scared to come out of that emotional shell. The situation is shitty but they can't help it
Wow the replies are really introspect(don’t know if it’s the right word) I glad you all took my comment seriously and are up for a discussion.
I feel like the author/artist framed the narrative in Yun-Oh’s pov for a bit on that part. It’s like Yun-oh thinks that’s the only reason that Haewon started this relationship with him, so I feel like it gets emphasized and the audience (us) can’t help but focus on that too. But it’s not all that Haewon is feeling or thinking. I think what Haewon feels is more than just simple romantic/ platonic/familial love, it’s like a combination of all that and for like 10 years(?) so like his feelings are at a point where he can’t imagine a life without Yun-oh, Just the suggestion makes him anxious and impulsive (Yun-oh tried to leave and he said let’s fuck). After he does whatever Yun-oh ask for two or three time it’s start being the new normal for him and their relationship (in his pov), and it’s not even that new since he was already putting Yunoh first over all his other relationships already before they started this. So quitting smoking was only natural for him. So yeah if you look at it from far(not sure how else to phrase it) you start to see that Yun-oh leaving him is not the only reason He’s dating Yun-oh. But that gets magnified because we’re seeing from YunOh’s lens and also how the author/artist framed it. So you are reading the story correctly. (Not to say that other opnions are incorrect)
Q1)Yes, because even if you’re not ready you deserve to try and you deserve to love, you deserve to fail and you deserve to try again.
Q1.2)You don’t have as many choices as you think and relationships kinda just happens sometimes.
Q2)If it’s beyond you, you deserve to practice and work until it is at your reach.
Q2.2)Sometimes our emotions get the better of us, and we fail to look outwards to see the other person at all. I think it is an evolutionary feature of ours to try and guess what the other person feels or think ( we are social creatures) but we are not them so we often get it wrong.
Rebuttal (?):
Not everything revolves around us but that’s a lonely thought. I’d like to think that somethings do revolve around us and some things revolve around the other person.
For example me, I spent three hours trying to craft my answer, I had a-whole-nother paragraph with the exact plots from the story line, but I lost my point half way so I just dumped that and started this one. So for three hours of my life revolved around you.
In context , Yunoh and Haewon are so dependent on each for emotional, physical, sexual, familial, romantic needs that it’s fair to say their lives kind off do revolve around each other. There’s that manager trying to help but both of them are so fixated on each other and their-own-selves that the other people are just in the peripheral. In their own ways they are trying to be thoughtful of each other but failing but as I said they want to be together, so they’re gonna try to be together no matter what. And they deserve to at least try.
Extra personal thoughts:
And I feel like that’s why the story is so juicy/delicious to read because it’s like “what would happen if two people are solely dependent on each other for everything?”, the story is exploring the “I don’t need anyone but you” And you’ll probably get the answers to your questions at the end of their story but it won’t be the universal truth. It’ll just be the author/artist’s answer.
And for now this is the best answer I can give you.
(If you debate me I’d probably fold in 5s)
You guys just don’t get it. I mean I honestly don’t get it either, I think it just comes with anxiety.
When I get into arguments with my friend or sibling and they change a certain thing they do… I it makes me feel so anxious, there’s just this weird unpleasant uncomfortable feeling in my chest.
And I’m just like why are you doing this? Why are you changing because of me? And I just start feeling like I’m being too childish or too demanding. And I start getting depressed or ashamed or I get angry with myself or with the other person. I’m managing better now. lol
I think t’s called a change-back reaction in psychology.
If there is a certain dynamic in the relationship for so long like for Yun-oh and Heawon (since yun-oh was in middle school) that change is gonna be uncomfortable. It’s hard to go from the well known well established predictable relationship even though toxic to this new un predictable new dynamic. I think it’s really realistic that Yun-Oh is behaving this way. And also his frontal lobe(brain part) isn’t fully developed yet.
Also Haewon is doing really great trying to reach out and trying to solve the situation (with a more developed brain)
And he also had a change back reaction of his own.
Remember when Yun-Oh was trying to be more independent and pull away? He was like no change back! Continue being the little brother that I need to protect and he started following every thing that Yun Oh wanted and said okay let’s fuck/date (it was more than that but you get the idea)