Cause size queens babe. If you had mediocre dick all your life and someone offers you a glorious 9 incher with some girth, you saddle up and strap in ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~
Ngl, I'm aroace who's not interested in experiencing sex irl so I don't really understand the obsession with big girthy dicks irl and in fiction lmao.
Imo, a genitals size doesn't correlate with how capable its owner is in providing pleasure.
Oh yeah, so my point is that many authors overly rely on how big they can draw their leads dick to let reader know they good are great at sex. And sometimes, it just makes the smut scene comical lmao
Like, as long as the leads are good at giving pleasure they can tone down on abnormally humongous peanits, imo. Take Zaria for example, her leads do not have excessively big dicks but boi are they good at giving their mcs mind blowing sex.
As a size queen myself who had mediocre dick, most mediocre and big dick guys alike, they have absolutely no idea what good technique is and I have to do the work myself. The nice thing about bigger and girthier guys is that it hits every spot without trying so rather than need to angle yourself correctly to hit the spot, every thrust hits ALL the spots. Technically anything 3-4 inches and up CAN reach spots if proper technique is used but out of the guys I’ve dated and the guys my friends have dated and guys around us, not a single one (across the globe) has had proper technique so it’s probably a dying craft. You’re aroace so you probably won’t care about any of this but if you’re having sex for pleasure and fun or for intimacy, you want to feel good. That’s exactly why we have pleasure points inside of us. It’s more realistic to chase a big dick dude than to try to find the one 10 leaf clover that can use proper technique to make you feel good. Even porn stars and ex porn stars don’t always have the best techniques. It’s sad when a dildo can outperform a man just because you can make it work for you vs whatever tf men think sex is.
Don't worry about it, although I am aroace, I'm still curious about what goes on with sex and such. It's just that I don't want to experience it for myself bec. I have repulsion towards it hahaha. So, the info other people share about it is interesting knowledge to me.
What I understand from what you said is most dudes suck at keeping their partners satisfied but having a big dick does help in making sex more enjoyable if not palatable. Though I've heard other ppl share that sometimes it's kind of a struggle and painful to take in huge dicks even with proper prep. Ngl, it seems like a tedious process to find a compatible partner
It truly is just tedious so you’re not missing out. I personally am into BDSM so a little pain feels great for me but I can see people being turned off by the discomfort of adjusting to a bigger size especially since the human body is absolutely incredible at bouncing back to its original shape. Bigger doesn’t always mean better but you’ll have a higher chance of getting “better” with a guy who doesn’t have to try vs a man who doesn’t have the equipment or skills to back up his bravado.
the last part got me cackling a bit bec. idk if it's a stereotype but I've heard many women do say that many dudes often talk big game but don't really know how give women pleasure. I wonder if gays, pan, or bisexual men fair better in this area with their male partners.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It was kinda funny how our convo started because of exaggeratedly ginormous dicks But tbh, it kinda expanded my views when it comes to the lil intricacies of sex even if I don't dabble in it. I do hope you find a mindful and caring partner who gives importance to your needs just as much as theirs.
Why do authors love to draw overly humongous dicks. You can make a peanits look hot without putting so much girth on it that it looks like a goddamn bazooka bro.