Daddy's lonely but still not the right time. Haebeom I get you. My father did the same and...

Sorry to hear that but did your dad had a good reason?

What is Bangchan's armpit even doing here

I can't take the question seriously with that name

He married my mother but he never wanted to be a father. He never told her that so by the time I was born, I'm the sencond and last child, they just drifted apart and he just disappeared from our lifes, but never divorced. When my mom died many years later, some relatives got in contact with him on facebook and he went to the funeral. He tried to explain us his pov and how he felt about not wanting to have kids but that he loved our mother and gave in, but he was already a stranger. He gave up his rights to the inheritance my mother left as some kind of peace sign but we didn't care because we found that he had another family, not an official one, before he met and married my mother. And he had 3 children already and he didn't want more. My mom never knew.

To this day he still tries to have some relationship with us even after the true came out. I think is because he's old and afraid to be alone lol

I'm getting angry just reading this idk how enraged u must have been
I hope it's not the reason why he's trying to be in your lives after so long but damnnn if he's doing it cuz he's lonely/ wants to be taken care of in old age, he has 3 other kids to go to goshhh so annoying

I'm so sorry that man did you, your sibling & mom dirty. Men that "don't want kids" need a vasectomy instead of putting all the responsibility on women in their lives to not get pregnant. Don't give him the time of day.

He even did that poor first wife dirty. Never wanted kids but had 5 with two women, all of whom he abandoned for his "freedom"... Dude needed to invest in condoms or vasectomy if he couldn't keep his panties zipped

Thanks for the kind words

Actually we were mad at the relatives who shared a private funeral invitation on facebook, which was seen by my father's relatives and they told him about it. Well, he even has grandchildren so we don't need or want to take care of him but because we are the 'legal' ones, he feels entitled to have some kind of contact with us (phonecalls, messages). And I think my brother's was more hurt than I was because he was 5 years old when he left so he remembers things more clearly than I do (I was a few months old). And my mother, whose partner bail on her without much of an explanation. Luckily, her family was there for her.

We always say that we only had one parent, only one mother, who was everything to us. He can hug a tree if he feels lonely.

Thanks for listening!

He doesn't even consider those 3 children, now adults, as his family. The man is a mess, problematic and has the nerve to act like a father at his old age... I don't know what he was thinking marrying my mother who clearly wanted a family. A selfish man.

There are women who will date men don't want marriage or kids hoping to change their mind. There are men who will date women who WANT marriage or kids hoping to change their minds. They think love will make their partner compromise...

That said, can u apply for some kind of financial alimony thing? If u pay a certain amount (as directed by the court) as parental alimony, then u are not legally bound to have anm any relationship with that person.

There are quite a few cases where I live...the kids have basically abandoned their parents (for reasons) but as long as they pay the alimony on time, then don't need to be physically around. Even medical rights/POA can be signed over to an independent executor.

Maybe you should look into it. Give some money to make the problem go away