Unfortunately I’ve heard some horror stories about gay/lesbian relationships with big age gaps too, so it’s not just a hetero experience sadly But I’m so glad that it’s working out well for you!
Unfortunately toxic relationships happen... But personally I know well another gay couple (they are our friends) were one is in his early 30s and the other in his early 40s and they are so cute that I want to puke rainbows, they have been together for 7 years. I haven't witnessed toxic relationships with bigger age gaps as of now but I'm sure that it happens like in other relationships sadly...
an 11-yr age gap between two people is fine but it really depends on when they met and got together. a 19-yr-old dating a 30-yr-old is wildly inappropriate regardless of gender, but when they're 35 and 46 it's not so strange.
Me (f) and my gf have a 11 years age gap, their relationship reminded me of us so much (except the drama with Mr. Lim not accepting his feelings right away). Yeoreum's friend is right, usually people tend to look at relationships with an important age gap weirdly because of creepy straight men that always go for younger barely legal girls (Leonardo di Caprio I'm absolutely not looking at you /s) but then, I think especially for homosexuals, these kind of relationships aren't creepy and different from other ones. I think for us it's more common because we are already such a small minority, it's normal not to have dated much or not have found your person even when you are older (or being into an older person knowing how small our dating pool is) ((also my gf is a cutie and I'm her groupie... Too cute and adorable to describe with just words (灬º‿º灬)♡ )) ps: The shirt that Yeoreum lent to Mr. Lim as a pj is so funny and gave away so fast that he was gay LOL "real cowboys ride cock" LMAO