humans aren't smart sadly. Humans do stupid things, even if it seems smart at the time. the best thing to do, is learn from what stupid you have seen and heard about. To do better, try not to repeat it. and the best revenge on someone that did or said a shitty thing to you like abandoning you. Grow up stronger than them. Have a happier, healthier family than them. It does not mean you have to have children too, just means you have those you love around you that make you happy and your life shine in your own way.
You're right, truthfully I'm not the type to think about it much either, I used to think "well they had their reasons" and leave it at that, till someone who wad there told me about how their parents were the ones who adamantly refused, and they didn't even let the dad go in, they wanted to get rid of me as they probably saw this as bringing shame to them, I was told they were ready to k*ll the guy who was her boyfriend too ha, I didn't know all that and it does seem like 'drama' but damn..being so cruel to your own blood, that's really been angering me now that I know, as they say "ignorance is bliss" and a psychologist said "you should accept now that you're 18, that you were never wanted, no one wished for you to be born" so I responded with "God created me, so yes I am indeed wanted."
Haa, I didn't know humans had such hatred of orphans, and even here when I commented about how they deserve to live like normal children, I was swarmed with hate and dislikes, people saying its a waste of money, that the caregivers should focus on their "real" families instead of orphans, and I can't count the number of time my own adoptive family who I always thought of as real family, have told me that I'm not their sister, their daughter, and how a cousin legit smirked once she learned I was adopted, like she had something on me? Like suddenly now she feels her life is worth more than mine and she got all arrogant with me, damn. So yeah definitely agree with your point, people are stupid and now I understand why I was told not to share that ibfor because humans are harassers and abusers. I regret telling them, I feel like I made a mistake in trusting this "family"
This is awful, what a disgusting trash of a man, wait are there people who actually abandoned their children because of things like this? I just wonder cause I know a kid who was adopted, she had said she doesn't care to know who her biological parents are because they chose to abandon her so they must be bad people..I was young and still had hope that people were good, maybe they were ill..etc, as we became adults she went and saw them from afar, she told me they had a family and children and they were perfectly happy...I dont think I want to find out about mine either, cause I was also told they are married and I apparently have younger half siblings that I don't know of, I would..rather never know, but maybe I'm curious..haa.
Anyway, there are bad people in the world, not everyone abandons their kids for "good" reasons..well its never good for th child no matter how adults try to rationalise it, all it does is hurt