I get what youbare trying to say but I think you are forgetting that the main bottom has a lot of unresolved issues. His parents died in an accident, he didn't have enough time to grieve and process that death. He got "adopted" into a nrw family but obviously ostracized by the father and manipulated by the son. The manipulative brother hung out with unsavory characters and he (main bottom) thinks that it's his fault plus the dubious consent for their first sexual encounter. The adoptive mother got sick and he somehow got relegated to taking care of the hospital bills. Yes, he has victim mentality. Yes, it is annoying especially for people who do not understand what he's going through. He has panic attacks when backed in a corner. He, himself, knows that he needs help but how can he sort himself out when he is in survival mode? The main top "carried" the relationship, yes. There's nothing wrong with that IF he (main top) wanted it.
The main bottom is exhibiting the typical behaviors or people with mental health disorders and the main top shows behaviors of the people suporting them. People who do not have mental health issues or are supporting people with mental health issues will always have a difficulty in understanding the "one step forward, two steps back" dance. It is painful. It is exhausting. It is very stressful.
The second couple is more interesting for you because they protray the typical "anger against the world" and "calming down with the right person". The "dynamic" relationship you are talking about is very similar to the main couple. The main difference is that Jinwoo is explosive whereas his brother was implosive. Explosing are always spectacular while watching paint dry is boring.
I think you just have trouble understanding that mental health journeys are not linear. This manhwa is so awesome because it doesn’t end at the “love story” it delves and explores the complex nature of the feelings the characters have for the people around them. Dojun is a realistic depiction of someone with a lot on their plate and suffering from ptsd and so many other issues. Both main characters are realistic in their own ways and show that just love with no communication, and adapting to eachother’s needs doesn’t cut it for a long lasting relationship. But nonetheless, your opinion is your opinion. You do you
I think you all have problems understanding that if you’re not healed psychologically, you shouldn’t be getting into relationships. Because it’s not the partners responsibility to deal with the mental burden of their partner. Dojun didn’t have it in him to deal with a relationship. Yet he strung along the top the whole story. With his self pity and “oh no I don’t want to burden anybody” he spent every single chapter apologizing and not changing anything. It was infuriating seeing the top carrying the whole relationship the whole time. If it wasn’t for him, this story wouldn’t have lasted ten chapters. I don’t care for realistic representation of things. I read yaoi because of entertainment. If I wanted realistic representation of mental health and gay relationships, I would listen to my friends or analyze my own life. You people need to stop pushing the realistic agenda on yaoi. Yaoi wasn’t created to represent or advocate, it was created to entertain.
What a tyrannical and one dimensional look on the arts and media ┑(￣Д ￣)┍
Lmao if everyone had to be mentally stable to be in a relationship, then humans would probably go extinct.
Why are you being so hard on only do-jun anyways? It's not his fault the ML kept chasing after him. It's not like he's lying, tricking or forcing anyone to be with him. He's pretty upfront about having issues, which can actually be really scary. I think his development is inspiring, but agree that it could have been shorter. But we don't live in the 90's or 00's, sweetheart. bl/yaoi has become big business, it's not just about watching guys do it, with some simple story running in the background anymore. Watch porn in stead. There are anime categories for you.
Getting so worked up about a fictional character in story you don't even like seem a bit unhealthy tbh. Just move on and read and focus on things you like <3
^^^ quite the inspiring words. Wish more people in this site could see this. Thanks for taking time out of your day to impart your wisdom
I remember why I dropped this story. The first couple bottom is so fucking annoying with his victim and self deprecating mentality broooooo. Yeah the couple became super wholesome bla bla bla. All because the top held onto the relationship for dear life. Because the bottom was so self absorbed in his own misery he didn’t have it in him to actually put effort in the relationship. Without the top, this story would have ended in season one.
I want more of the second couple. The characters are more complex and dynamic. They should have been the main couple. I’m so mad I picked this up again. Glad I could just scroll fast through chapters during the first couple sex scenes so I could catch up on the second couple. But instead of boring side stories of the main couple, the author should have written a side story solely focused on the second couple. This story was unnecessarily long for what it was. They liked each other and sealed the deal on chapter 30. The rest of the story was all the bottom dwelling in his wishy-washy nature and misery. I need to cleanse myself from this story. It was so annoying. Being an anti DNF puts me through so much stress but if I’m gonna be a hater I have to be able to argument why lmaoooo