Agreed so hard! If my partner was in this situation I would have rather negative feelings to their parents as they hurt my partner
idk, i think Ho’s behavior of talking normally with the dad is exactly him “staying out of it”. he’s treating the dad as he would any other kind of person, and that’s exactly how Ho is anyways, he’s real nice and kind like that. He wouldn’t avoid or judge anyone without knowing the full story, you may not like it, but that’s genuinely how his character has been set up in the entire story.
it’s still too early to tell anyways bc we don’t know much about the dad still. plus if kwon says something then i’m sure Ho would stand by him.
there is such a thing called misplaced kindness. I understood him going up to the old man asking if he needed help. but the moment the situation was cleared up, he should‘ve left. plus, the old man is in his 50s or 60s. can’t he speak up for himself? ho and kwon haven‘t been together that long and this is a small town where everyone is constantly talking to anyone. the chances of kwon hearing and seeing that were almost a hundred. why would he put himself in a situation that kwon could misunderstand in the first place? like I get him being nice, but if said kindness is hurting someone in the process, do your good intentions even matter? given ho‘s personality, he‘ll try to mediate with the dad in a less obvious way. as he did in past situations. but if your bf sets a boundary, or tells you they are uncomfortable with someone, acting like ho is not actually kind at all. we know this will work out in some way afterall, but in a real-life situation? ho would be typing all occurances out in a reddit-thread because his bf is upset.
well it seems like we have unrealistic standards set for Ho him being kind to the dad = hurts kwon ? being kind to kwon and avoiding dad = hurts dad. he can’t really win.
“why would Ho put himself in a situation haebom could misunderstand?” why would haebom choose to make his own conclusions without talking to Ho? i don’t think it’s fair for Ho to always have to be alert and avoid situations that can be “misunderstood”.
even in real life, nothing is ever black or white, no one can be perfect, and people have a tendency to act in ways they think is best. this issue/arc is just not a big deal to me bc it’s something that can be fixed with a simple conversation + it’s not detrimental or out of character. i think Ho also has the autonomy to make his own decisions and form his own relationships with others. this might be the fundamental difference, but i don’t really expect others to hate who i hate or like who i like bc i know it’s different for everybody. you’re always a villain in somebody’s story or whatever they say
not sure how to feel about this. it‘s great that his dad wants to reconnect but I really hate how he‘s trying to push himself into kwon‘s life again and I really don‘t understand why ho would interact with him, when kwon hasn‘t even decided on what he wants. he wasn‘t there for 36 long years but now that he‘s ready, he follows and pesters kwon even though he said to give him time? I guess that woman disturbed his stalking, given kwon is in the area.. it’s like everything has to go at the pace of the people around kwon, while they don’t care for what he wants. that even bothered me when that one girl inserted herself in his relationship. so I really don‘t understand why ho interacted with the old man. kwon‘s old enough to figure his situation out himself. if my partner was in kwon‘s, I‘d avoid that person and try to mediate and talk this through with my partner and not his dad, OR just kept my mouth shut and gave him time to process. I have no business interacting with his dad until he figures his thoughts and feelings out first.. idk. I don‘t like this -_-