WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR GO FOR IT!!!!!!
MAN THEY DELETED THE OTHER PART OF ME SAYING THAT HE COMES OFF AS DESPERATE. Like he's acting rlly pushy even tho I told him we should build a foundation first
Part 2: he texted me through tiktok dms but he's a bit too pushy when I told him to take it slow he got anxious and asked me how he could please me even tho I told him we'd stop talking for the day(I ghosted that message btw). He's kinda desperate but he's hella good looking and has a nice physique. How would u guys handle this situation. If he gets too pushy I'd consider to not take him as a pet and block him. I did tell him we should build a foundation first. Idk man sometimes I feel like his old mistress threw away the leash and he's desperate to find an owner
Build a foundation, tell him you’ll do it but not if he does too much. Idk how these relationships work irl but he just wants to be punished it seems like, so do it. (Doesn’t have to be sexual)
Hey jellyfish, he sounds a lot like he’s in sub frenzy you NEED to pump the breaks on it as that can be VERY dangerous for both of yall. Excitement is normal but you have to pump breaks on THAT forward of energy. If you are wanting a relationship with him then that foundation is standard you’re not a kink dispenser. If it’s strictly play you still need boundaries and limits/ safe words. I’m saying this as a sub myself. Vetting is a real thing as you need to know if your Dom style matches his sub style. Because if they don’t match up conflict will occur that ends up pushing one or both of you too far out of comfort zones. It as an example could be a heavy masochist sub begging a soft Dom to do CBT and a new soft Dom goes against their limits and it messes with them with things like for example extreme guilt feelings of disgust to themselves, really bad Dom drops etc.
Agreed with everything above. U should should set serious boundaries and make it clear that if he doesnt uphold them there will be no contact no more (but girl fr u living the dream if he wasn't such a brat)
Yeah we agreed to get to know each other and since we are long distance he told me that he doesn't expect much to happen, but what he told me yesterday threw me off and overwhelmed me.
'I can't stop thinking about you. I feel empty and lost without you. I belong to you completely, and I need to prove it. I want you to feel it too how much I am yours, how I exist only for you.
Please let me show you'
And today he deleted his instagram account & his burner tiktok where he initially texted me. I asked him like an hour ago on his main tiktok account why he deleted his insta but he's not responding so far.
I'm just rlly concerned cuz why'd he also call me mommy before we even started getting to know eachother (told him not to call me that btw). I asked him some questions and listed some of my requirements that I look for in a person but he didn't share me his requirements.
Like if he acts this way with everyone he will surely get himself in a place he doesn't want to be in - might even get manipulated
Thank you babushka
Thank you so much kittyslyfox!
I looked up what you meant by sub frenzy and he sure seems to be in that state.
1. He called me mommy on the first day when I insisted on getting to know each other
2. After I asked him for his preferences , he wasn't curious about mine
3. Even tho he told me he wasn't expecting our relationship to work out in a sexual manner bcz of our long distance. He still tried to eagerly prove to me that I should pick him and choose him just bc I didn't decide to follow him back immediately
4. He texted me this last night on insta >>I can't stop thinking about you. I feel empty and lost without you. I belong to you completely, and I need to prove it. I want you to feel it too how much I am yours, how I exist only for you.
Please let me show you<<
I felt overwhelmed and didn't know what to say, it felt theatrical and fake so I ignored it. (cz like he doesn't know me why's he projecting so much) Today he deleted his insta and his private tiktok account (heck maybe he even blocked me); I wanted to solve this and asked him about an hour ago why he deleted his insta - he didn't respond yet, but he's probably in school rn so I'm not upset about that.
5. I asked him questions about his morals, height, if he works out, what he's studying etc.- but he didn't care to ask questions about my personhood...
And again thank you so much for telling me that he could be in a sub-frenzy, I thought I was going crazy from worrying. Just like you said that it could turn problematic rlly fast, I was imagining what could happen if he talked this way to a manipulative dom. Have a nice day :))!! <3
Oh damn but yeah Ig there is nothing u can do except waiting for his response
Jellyfish how big is the age difference that he is in school and calls u mommy??
Like 1,5 years dw he's 19
I did feel like he was lying about his age so I wanted to see his ID but he didn't feel comfortable to share it
Oh ok good to know
guys a sub man who looks similar to richard and is like 188cm tall, wants me to be his dom