Seconding and sharing my own experience. Ngl I lucked out, I ended up in a relationship at like 17 (my first Real relationship), we lost our virginity together, got into a stable place, and then we started w BDSM after I brought it up a few times kinda like 6mo in. We been together 5 years now, I'm 22. He wasn't down for everything at first and there are some things he's just NOT down for that I respect (and vice versa!) and we're still working our way to some stuff but it's nice to grow and learn together. It's something I feel like if you're not 100% w it or if you're young or just starting out it can be really nice to start within the confines of a healthy relationship. Lots of trust building. I think a lot of people see BDSM as a whole as smn u do w strangers and shit or like with several partners yk bc it's like "taboo" -- which if ur into that thats chill ofc -- but i love the way i got into this community. You can be in a committed monogamous relationship w someone u trust and do this shit. And u dont have to start swingin out the gates. And I would even argue FOR being in a trustworthy stable partnership when u do this bc it requires so much exploration and communication that u wont always get from strangers yk. Esp if you're new-ish. And esp if you're, like, topping. I found topping, as a woman, scary as fuck! I was like. Not confident and shit. Even tho it was me who wanted it yk. So I'm glad I was in a relationship when I started bc that let me build my confidence without worrying abt fucking up. And there are lots of diff things u can do and ways you can indulge that arent always represented mainstream. And that r fun to explore together. Hope you find what ur looking for & dont rush into it! Shit's worth taking time for :) Best of luck babes!

guys a sub man who looks similar to richard and is like 188cm tall, wants me to be his dom