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You can have subjective opinions but should also be aware that they aren’t the objective truth and fight people when they explain stuff to you. I’d ask you to elaborate but I’m afraid any explanation would fall on deaf ears if you’re asking to not react negatively to someone saying borderline absurd shit. Like it or don’t the abuse dynamic is there.
But you are ignoring something very important.
Who Jo is and who TJ is. Thats so unfair. If Jo was in TJ position, would u say the same?
Jo- lived a normal life and can quite easily give Ian that. Has a normal job , a loving family. He can give him “everything” cause he can.
TJ-orphan who had to survive all his life, endure abuse and neglect . Plus he is a thug. He isnt pretending too. He has done everything to have some power.
I feel like u cant understand how someone who has been used all his life can cope. “ this gang life” and that has been his whole life.
To throw it away for someone who might go back to his second choice the next minute