Yeah, I actually experienced something similar to him in my childhood in terms of his sexual abuse and the questions on whether you did anything and made the choices yourself never go away. Even wen you accept what happened. Even when you know you were a child or that the family member had power over you. Because deep down you want to convince yourself that maybe there was a way out. Even though it would kill you to know there was, it would also mean that maybe in an alternate reality, things could have been better.
Yeah I can relate too cause it happened to me too by someone I considered close like a family. Also, I'm so sorry that happened to you and I genuinely want you to know that you're so strong and amazing and I sincerely hope you get to completely heal from it one day.
My thoughts exactly
see, and i’m exactly like you too. i was sexually abused by a family member as a child and i always think “what did i do to deserve that? if i did things differently would it not of happened?”. a lot of people in the comments are struggling to grasp why people are empathizing with him but they’re failing to realize that majority boy love readers are women who have been molested, abused, and raped. it’s not about excusing his actions but it creates a reader and character bond through mutual connection and it strikes a cord with them. it’s so sad. i truly feel for his character, id be a horrible piece of shit too if i was as bitter and broken as him.
Yeah, many people who reach yaoi are SA survivors whether it be from family or other people. It's an awful thing to go through. And most do turn it inwards on themselves which is so unfair. You go through this awful act that wasn't your choice and then not only are you left with emotional scars, sometimes PTSD and CPSTD in my case, that you have to work through and put effort into while the perp gets to walk free like nothing happened but you're left doubting if what happened was really not your fault. I'm a man so I might have a bit of a different experience to women who are sexually abused but I know for me, I'm consistently been told that I couldn't have experience sexual assault or that it was probably my choice. Society is awful and does anything but help survivors heal.
thank you for sharing what you went through, i know it’s just a comment section but you could have been shunned by me nonetheless but you shared anyways. thank you for that. i’m sorry for what we’ve been through. the world sucks. people suck.
I agree. But there is hope, I've met some amazing people. Thank you for having the courage to respond to me too with your own experience. We both deserve to heal and live life how we want without doubt or fear. I believe if you haven't gotten there yet, you will get there. I'll keep you in my heart<3
its a case of a victim becoming an abuser and even though I won't defend him for that, this was so incredibly hard to read, I feel really really bad for him, like what do you mean "was I asking for it?" of course you were not T_T it breaks my heart knowing all he wanted was those photos gone