Huh? What? I know they both tell the story from their own perspective of it but why their ...

same, but I just think they want us to sympathize with him…

I understand that but its way too different than what we saw about their relationship.

I think it's because he's in denial that he's like his stepdad who beat anyone close to them to submission. Abusers tend to gloss the fact that they did something terrible and pretend it didn't happen or it was out of love

i mean like you said the stories are from separate perspectives. each character has different povs and memories of what happened. that’s why they’re not the same.

I just cant believe 'he is that denial'. He literally says how he punish Ruby regularly. Even if its narrative, why didnt we see some "yes, i did that but she deserved it" narrative, instead of "we were close. She even stayed she wanted to be with me, like marriage. She promised to be with me" like, what? If these moments happenned, why Ruby doesnt have any memory of this? What i am trying to say is: their memories doesnt look like "two sides of same coin". It looks like two different memories.

Ruby did mentioned before that she 'acts' in front of her family to not get punished and stuff. But i forgot when the abuse started, if i don't recall it wrong it was after the first marriage?

Idk i guess we will see. I still think its weird though.

Tbh, i dun trust his pov anyway. Since Ruby did mention the abuse he did and such. The guy prolly is so into his own bubble, he just views his memories in them rose tinted glasses. While erasing the stuff he did to her from his own consciousness.

Cuz ngl, i cannot explain it otherwise, we saw how he treated Ruby when he tried to take her with him. Dude didn't care one bit of how she felt.

So i can imagine that the way Ruby behaved in his memories, that it wasn't exactly the way he remembered it to be?

Kind of like, when A just doing common things with B and B suddenly thinks that A is in love with them, because A just simply shaked B's hand or smiled like they usually do. But B just ends up reading far too deep into it, so the memories/pov is kind of uuuuh...what it called...corrupted? Or something like that...

Why would Ruby say how she always wanting to be with him in his memories? Why would they hang out on grass together? Not once he threatened her or she seems afraid. She was the one who took the lead the conversation. Not him. This isnt even when they are with others. They are alone together. In other scenes where we saw how he abused Ruby, it was always him who was tsking the lead. Ruby was always passive. Like i said, i understand the "his perspective " narrative but heres the problem: He isnt the kind of abuser who denies abuse's existence. He is the kind of abuser who justify his abuse. "I hit Ruby because she deserve it". Like i said, their narrative is too different.