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Unfortunately no, most harem story has a mc as a self insert. So whatever the mc do or does they can somehow see that as themselves. Aside from mc female characters only seen as heroine materials for them. They can't see them outside of that or as their own person. Each one of them have their trope but in the end those heroine will always love mc which is the reader and heroine is always a stepping stone to path the way for mc

Nah isn't thing the perfect timing to reveal your sob story? get pity points like the it's always the happiest people that has the deepest wounds kinda cliche. Anyways I'm rooting for you girlie ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ノ~