Just as much as Dohyun didn’t understand Juhyeon, Juhyeon also didn’t understand Dohyun. It’s easy to point fingers and say who hurt who first, but in the end, they both hurt each other and simply needed to communicate better. Honestly, ghosting someone you care about is such an immature and cruel thing to do, especially to someone you supposedly care for. Of course, there are situations where ghosting is warranted, like in cases of abuse, but otherwise, it’s an incredibly selfish act. Dohyun’s selfishness might have hurt Juhyeon, but that doesn’t excuse Juhyeon’s decision to ghost him. Both were selfish in different ways, but their problems could have been resolved through communication. Of course I’m sure there are other factors at play for Juhyeons decision
Dude....its not the same. It wasnt miscommunication. It was Dohus selfish decision and way of dealing things.
I dont hate Dohu. I love him and i understand how much he is bad at reading emotions. But that doesnt mean that he can treat Juhyeon like that.
1- he stalked him for personal gain
2- he told him that he was interested in him
3- he assumed that juhyeons attention isnt real love, instead of asking juhyeons opinion.
4- he calculated when and how he will abandon juhyeon eventually.
5- he realized that he was in love. Instead of coming clean, he decided to hide because to him, "its significiant".
The whole point is Dohu is very self centered character. He always does things for his own gain or care. He doesnt bother to deal eith how he affect others, UNTIL HE MET JUHYEON. Thats when he realizes, he needs to change his way of thinking.
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Juhyeon didnt "ghost" Dohu. He left after he said "this is our last day". Dohu had many chances to explain himself but its his fault he didnt.
Yes, people. This is his fault for ignoring others point of view his whole point. Yes, he clearly doesnt have common sense so??? That doesnt make Juhyeon hurt less.
Compared to Dohu, Juhyeon was always very caring but as person and as boyfriend, he treated him well even when Dohu was stalking. He always made sure to feel Dohu better in literally every way Juhyeon is people-pleasure. Dohu is selfish. And they learn to balance, will have to learn.
Dohu needs to understand why his actions hurted Juhyeon. And clearly, people in comments needs to understand too.
Yeah but low-key the man's autistic...I'm sure if he could just "realise." How to properly react to contextual cues, he'd have done so already. He didnt explain himself because he didnt want to hurt juheon firstly, obvj bad bad, but he didn't actively choose to hurt juheon, he followed the decision which made sense most as a form of damage control to not hurt their relationship(terrible ending as we can see).
Plus you can literally argue that juheon did the exact same thing in doing things only for his self gain. The only reason he acted as a people pleaser was literally for his own gain. He only treated dohu well during the stalking phase for his own image.
Dohu was bullied just like juheon was, it led lasting marks on the both of them even if they responded to it differently. For dohu, it's an awareness that maybe he is just a loveless freak and everyone will leave him eventually, therefore he should get used to it. Which is likely why he tried to pretend that he was fine over juheon leaving, defence mechanism (even though he really wasn't)
Either way, I think both made mistakes as a result of circumstances that were never in their control. They were both selfish and both couldn't understand the other in the end. You can argue that dohu didn't understand juheon more or vice versa but it's better just to accept that they're idiots, who's surroundings forced them to develop defence mechanisms which hurt each other in the end (plus other stuff)
it doesn't make sense to point at dohu and be like "his fault, evil man chose to hurt juheon due to pure selfishness."
Juhyeon didnt get close to someone for "self gain". He just tried to be Nice from distance. Thats not using people. Thats protecting himself. And like i said, i understand Dohus situation but you and dogu needs to understand why Juhyeon was hurted by his actions.
"You and Dogu." low-key funny. I think I'm fine, I don't think people are saying that juheon shouldn't have felt hurt by dohus actions but I'm more saying that, yeah you relate to juheon but that doesn't mean people should solely rage about how juheon was hurt by dohus actions. If you read me and the other gals replies, I'm sure you can glean the fact we are saying ( trying to ig) that we understand BOTH sides, not just one.
If any comment saying that both were wrong means that we don't understand how juheon was wronged, then that feels more like you refusing to understand that it's a bit more nuanced and blaming only dohu. He did wrong, but for the same reason (surroundings) juhyeon also did wrong.
And yeah, both were protecting themselves in their own way. One was researching how to understand emotions whilst believing that nobody would care about him enough in the first place to be hurt by his actions whilst the other one was being a people pleasure, who used pretend niceness as a shield whilst also really wanting to be seen and accepted as he was.
I am not really angry towards dohu. I actually think he was in love with ml since first day but he is too silly to realize it. This is why i enjoy this drama because dohus feelings were real, more real than he thought. Of course, no way Juhyeon would feel this way since this is his relationship and Dohu is horrible at explaining himself. And the fact that he minimize the issue is what hurted ML because it mattered to ML. My comment was towards people who keep saying "what mc did wasnt big deal, ML is overreacting uwu be together again".... even though, ML repeatedly said how much he wants to be seen in story. Like, you cant erase his character. This is who he is. The conflict and the drama is needed. Thats what i am saying in the comment.
And like i said, being people pleasure is different than "using others". You cant just tell people "you are interested in them", stalk them, ask their body shape and having sex with them and somehow, being surprised that they thought its mutual love. Like, what were you expecting? Also, using someone else s story without consent is illegal. "İnspiration", yes but it went too far. Thats the point .
I am surprised by how many people failed to understand why ir hurted juhyeon. I am not sure because i have similar life or that we are both infj:
WHAT JUHYEON wanted wasnt love. It was to be SEEN as who he is. He thought that Dohyun saw the real and love him. He thought thats why dohyun chased him,not because personal agenda.
İn my opinion Dohyun had a crush since the beginning and fell in love before juhyeon. He fell in love with real juhyeon by getting knowing him.
But from juhyeon s perspective, he doesnt know. No. He cant believe that mc actually loved himvas character or as person. This is something even mc wasnt sure until very later. You all need to accept that Dohyun was very selfish with his decisions. He didnt care enough to reveal the truth because for him, it wasnt a big deal.
But for juhyeon, it was everything. It was the reason he started liking mc. "Oh this selfish guy is actually interested in me as person?!!!" bathump batump. I was waiting this drama since chapter 1. Because Dohyuns character needed arc about learning emotions, his own emotions and that he need to put others first sometimes. That he cant live selfish like this because his way of thinking is hurting people, person he loves. And being seen as "who he is" is literally center of juhyeons arc. Because he had to fake emotions all the time. He is not even sure himself which part of him is real. He feels like noone really sees or understands him. For him, being understood is being loved. And that is something Dohyun failed to do, even though Dohyun didnt mean it but it is something he needs to learn.
This drama is what makes their story as lovers and characters as interesting. And i hope we explore this more.