Well said
Fr. People choosing to stay by your side through hardships will always be a sign of love, and you not letting them do that is selfishness. People like Haebeom's dad will also be the ones getting mad and regretful when they find out a loved one is hurting and they had no idea. People will want to stay with you when they love you, and you have to let them! T__T
ikr? like I understand the guilt of putting your loved ones through the sickness (unfounded, bc you dont chose to get sick. but it's an illogical guilt I can understand) but to make decisions for them is just not it. he could have laid out the options and worked it out with her, whatever the outcome might be... but he just left her, no explanation, no goodbye, baby in the belly, in the middle of a town :( and then she died due to another betrayal.
her story is truly tragic （/TДT)/
As someone who has breast cancer, legitimately that is so hurtful and ableist of you. Please remember to be empathic and recognize that even though this is a fictional world these are real problems that real people deal with. Inherently how people handle and cope with their own sickness is their choice.
When I first got diagnosed I didn't tell ANYONE for a full year. Until I started losing my hair and I couldn't hide it anymore.
Were people sad this I hid it? Yes. And they had every right to feel that way. But I also had every right to handle and cope with it in my own right. I could not bear the thought of any of my loved ones having to take care of me physically or financially, because even though the manhwa doesn't touch on it people literally die from being worked to the bike trying to pay of medical bills.
He also didn't WANT to forget her, or leave her. And he didn't want her to have to take care of him the way she would have to. These are hard feelings to sit with. And when he tried to do something about it he couldn't control the consequences of the surgery.
He was also told that he would have approximately three months to live. You have no idea what it is like to come to terms with the fact that your life and time with everyone you love and care about might be cut short because of something you or even medical professionals truly have next to no control over.
So unless you've had doctors look you in the face and tell you, you might die in three months, or that you will die, because of a disease or disability, get off your high horse.
And to anyone who read this comment and felt the same way I did always remember, It is not selfish to not want to be a burden. Or to make decisions by yourself in regards to your own health. There will always be people who tell you that you have to be considerate of others and that if you aren't thinking about how this affects "everyone else" your selfish.
You aren't. You're a human being living life for the first time like anyone else. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve and handle it the way any able bodied person would be allowed to.
The comment i posted is also something i wrote as someone who got left behind without any explanation, what's happened and why. I have empathy, yes - lots of it, because if i dont i wouldnt even be blinking twice thinking about the person who left without saying a word. And i can shower them with much more if only i had known what they're going through. If they're in pain, let me share half of that pain as well because i dont want to wake up one day hearing from a doctor or some stranger that my loved one is already gone and i wasnt even there to fight with them. Or even more, not knowing what happened to them after they left -- its like grieving over someone not knowing if they're still alive, they're gone, or they are just a dream?
Both of us are coming from a place of experience. I guess that just makes it even more valid for both of us to feel the way we do. Its never easy for the one who is suffering from illness, neither is it for the one who was left in the dark and literally left alone. At the end of the day, we both experienced the other sides of the coin, and that could mean very different things for the both of us.
But you know its always much more miserable for the people who got left behind than those who left. My heart is aching more for yeonji who just woke up one day with her lover gone and a son in her belly. Imagine all the thoughts that might've gone running in her head with him just leaving without a word, not even knowing about the sickness — "is this like a scam? is this all a lie? does he have a family he went back to?"
For me, its selfish for sick people to decide things on their own.. if i want to take care of your untilmyour last breath, that's because i want to, not because i pity you. If you want to fly to the states and get into surgery no mayter if you live or die, so be it but let me know cause i want to fight all these with you.
His excuse of leaving cause he knows he's gonna die and yeonji will stay with him till his last days is just selfish and tragic.. i cant