Unrelated, but I just want to send you so much of my love. Absolutely agree with everything you said, I can’t believe anyone would have such a poor take. You articulated your point beautifully and I wish you well in your journey
you are so strong ): your message here is so kind, it takes a lot from a person to be this kind despite everything you've probably went through
My mom is a 5-year survivor of breast cancer, so your words hit super close to home. I completely understood the dad’s pov as I did watch my mom go through chemo, lose her hair, some of her vigor, and her spirit. So much about her has changed and sometimes she’s unrecognizable, both physically and personality-wise. I had no way of doing anything but sit there and feel useless and powerless. I think that’s also what is so amazing about Ho is that he recognizes that Haebom may be experiencing the turmoil that comes with having such complicated feelings about the tragedy that his parents went through and what experiences he might’ve lost without his dad being there.
Agreed. Completely support the fact that it is your choice at the end of the day and there is no right or wrong way to handle these difficult situations in life, both for the patient as well as the friends/family. My dad has dementia and my mom and I have been his caregivers for the past 10+years until we finally made the decision to put him in a nursing home. When you're in a position were you have to make those choices because the person who suffers can't even do that for themselves, it's such a nightmare because EVERY DECISION is followed with doubt, guilt, grief, relief, etc and there is never an end to it. It changes you as a person. I wish my dad had that chance to make a choice and I'm amazed my mom could survive it and fight for him for as long as she did and I'm proud to have been her rock and his voice when he didn't feel heard. But it still left me hollow for a long time. I don't think any of use should judge someone without first considering what it must be like to live their life. I hope every day that this world can find a little more kindness. I think that's what I love most about this story. Let's all take some courage and kindness from this story and maybe a little forgiveness
As someone who has breast cancer, seeing so many people come out and say that he was selfish and "took away her choice", that is sincerely so hurtful and ableist of all of you. Please remember to be empathic and recognize that even though this is a fictional world these are real problems that real people deal with. Inherently how people handle and cope with their own sickness is their choice.
When I first got diagnosed I didn't tell ANYONE for a full year. Until I started losing my hair and I couldn't hide it anymore.
Were people sad and hurt that I hid it? Yes. And they had every right to feel that way. But I also had every right to handle and cope with it in my own right. I could not bear the thought of any of my loved ones having to take care of me physically or financially, because even though the manhwa doesn't touch on it people literally die from being worked to the bone trying to pay of medical bills.
He also didn't WANT to forget her, or leave her. And he didn't want her to have to take care of him the way she would have to. He loved her for fucks sake. These are hard feelings to sit with. And when he tried to do something about it he couldn't control the consequences of the surgery.
He was also told that he would have approximately three months to live. You have no idea what it is like to come to terms with the fact that your life and time with everyone you love and care about might be cut short because of something you or even medical professionals truly have next to no control over.
Just because you were blessed with bodies that don't try to kill you every second of every day, or brains that will forget even the basics of how to be a human being. Does not mean you get to preach about how sick people or disabled people should act, in fact you take away OUR choice in doing that. The very thing you're upset about.
Ironic isn't it.
So unless you've had doctors look you in the face and tell you, you might die in three months, or that you will die, because of a disease or disability, get off your high horse.
And to anyone who reads these comment and feels the same way I do always remember, It is not selfish to not want to be a burden. Or to make decisions by yourself in regards to your own health. There will always be people who tell you that you have to be considerate of others and that if you aren't thinking about how this affects "everyone else" your selfish.
You aren't. You're a human being living life for the first time like anyone else. And being confronted with the fact it might end or change drastically forever. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve and handle it the way any able bodied person would be allowed to.