I'm sure he regrets how everything happened, and of course abandoning them. But i want to believe that he means he doesn't regret his decision in making them suffer together
I think him not saying anything was more of a situation so he would look like a bad guy therefore making her gf move on faster?
But how is that a better alternative, I think it would make me feel worse and questioning everything that this guy i was in love with and about to have his baby just up and left for no reason
Thats a nicer interpretation
it was a lose-lose situation for everyone, someone had to unfortunately take the brunt of it :/
Ig I just think they're both suffering regardless so surely letting her know it wasn't his choice to leave, and wasn't because he loved her any less, would lessen her suffering a little bit, but that's just imo
he might've needed to be the bad guy in this situation
1. who knows what was rlly going on in his mind, if he was forgetting his own WIFE, who knows what else could've been going on with him at the time with such a deadly tumor eating at his brain
2. she might've fought against him and insisted she go with him, then what? she'd have to take care of him and their child by herself regardless at some point. she's be alone while he was in a coma, and he lost his memories coming out of his coma, on top of years of therapy and other treatments.
and who knows, telling her might've made her pity him or see him in a different light (which i think is unlikely), her knowing could've caused more suffering for each other for all we know
i'd like to think he didn't want that life for her (she was really young too), and imo nobody should have to watch their partner go through something so grueling, nor should someone have to care for their partner on such an intense level (people have lost their minds to nursing fatigue)
No but I mean if he left a letter not saying where he was going it would have been impossible for her to go with him, I feel like everyone keeps forgetting this was an option lol and he didn't have to say everything about the tumour, I think any kind of information even just saying something has come up I have to deal with would have been better than nothing because then your mind is just going wild and makes you think it's because he never cared about you in the first place
ig it was more complicated than that
I mean sure feelings more complicated I'm just saying imo that would've been the better thing to do and I'm sad he didn't
Still crazy he said NOTHING before he left, could have sent smth while he was in the States before the surgery or left smth not even to say where he was going but what was going on. I can't really judge the actions of someone in that position because heck idk what I'd do with three months left to live, but I'd hope I wouldn't abandon my family and leave them thinking I left for selfish reasons like cmon man I do wonder if maybe the forgetfulness and stuff of that nature also impacted the decision a bit like he couldn't remember the address to send a letter, but then I think they would have mentioned smth to that effect if it was the case. I could've let it go if he wasn't like "I don't regret it" WHAT?? How do you not regret letting her die thinking you abandoned her and her unborn child, knowing she went about raising him alone for years?? I get the 40 years of recovery and not wanting her to see that but the fact he stands behind not telling her anything at all is pretty crazy ngl