Why can’t I love someone back (rant incoming)

phobom October 23, 2025 7:41 am

If anyone knows about this stuff or has an opinion pls help me.
I don’t understand why but I genuinely haven’t been able to correspond anyone’s love since like elementary/middle school. Now I’m just starting college and anytime someone likes me I just have this weird pitch feeling and I feel highkey uncomfortable around them. Even if IIII was the one to like them first. Another important thing is that I also genuinely have been feeling desperate to be in a relationship since I’m grown, I feel like I’m missing out on something beautiful that I see a lot of people have and wish to experience. My point is, even when I’m the one that liked the other person first, and fantasize about being in a cute relationship, whenever I’m facing a real opportunity I just can’t, for the life of me, take it. And like it’s not subconscious (I think) that I’m just afraid and I hide it by saying no or smth like that, whenever I feel any reciprocation I physically and emotionally stop feeling attracted, I just start feeling extremely awkward…


Sorry if that’s too extensive but the reason I’m asking 4 help is cause I’m starting to like someone and I truthfully have my hopes high this time so I’d like to work in myself and improve to be able to be in a relationship w someone and be a good partner
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PLEASE AND THANK U

Responses
    dragon_queen October 23, 2025 8:06 am

    No wait I have almost the same problem! When I like them I hope that they like me and as soon as they do I just start wanting to pull away. Like I’m freaked out? But I can hold out and hold myself back and be kinda into it UNTIL they want to be in a relationship. Like I’m literally in my twenties and never had a boyfriend even though I’ve wanted to be in a relationship since forever ago. I really want to know why too. I’m suspected that it might have to do with that I’m a hopeless romantic at heart but subconsciously I’m scared cause most family I’ve known have gotten divorced. Maybe that’s why? No idea.

    hyvnsoo October 23, 2025 8:08 am

    lowkey you might be on the aroace spectrum my friend. i am similar to you

    Nanamikentowife October 23, 2025 8:44 am

    Twin you might be on our side the asexual one

    dapo October 23, 2025 9:43 am

    Could may be a strong sense of avoidant attachment style or your lithromantic?

    nakumori October 23, 2025 10:40 am
    Twin you might be on our side the asexual one Nanamikentowife

    this is taking me tf out HELPPPP but i agree