...ur misunderstanding ALOT. First of all i think everyone still hates dojin if you don't then ur a creep and a weirdo cause dojin fully graped Hyesung. That is why you comparing Hyesung's situation with byul to his own mom is so crazy to me Hyesung was graped and knows what its like to bring a child into the world that has a mother who is uninterested in the marriage. Even then, he wanted o make sure if byul was born he would be born to a good family. Hye's ,other tho (we all know her circumstances it was literally laid out lmao) abandoned him with an abusive family and went crawling back after her new family went bust. Her new family was smart enough to cut ties with her tho. Be better than supporting abusers, neglectful parents, and weirdos like dojin (I dont wanna go as far as to say u support grapists like dojin cause this is just fiction but u seem to be passionate about this lol)
When you say you don't want to imply that I support abusers like Dojin, but you imply that you think so, you just want to appear innocent in your accusation. That's low, it's almost like a mean girl making sarcastic comments and then saying oops, it was unintentional, I didn't mean anything wrong with that. But yes, you did!
"I don't wanna go as far as to say you support graphic novelists like Dojin because this is just fiction, but you seem to be passionate about this lol"
And again, I don't like his mother, but we only have a brief fragment of her story. I'm not defending her as right, but things aren't black and white, there are shades of gray between them. There's complexity beyond that.
I don't like Dojin either, maybe it's the curiosity about what comes next that keeps me reading. In general, I read some "tragic" manga to cry, some end up being too heavy for me and I drop them. I feel that reading about these tragic plots is like revisiting certain experiences and a process of externalizing some internal conflicts. So I read, cry, and suffer with the characters, feeling like trash for days, and then it kind of cleanses some of the hurt in me.
I felt the need to defend, slightly, Byul's grandmother because I have also been a victim of sexual, psychological, and physical violence, and I don't know what I would do in her situation. I most likely wouldn't abandon a child, but it's easy for me to say that without being in that situation. In a way, my situation was less complex at that point. I was alone, so I only needed to fight for myself.
I think you forgot what happened when they met again after she knew that his son married Dojin who is rich. I didn't think she regrets it. She even gaslighted Hyesung. If she really reflected then Hyesung won't act like this. People won't act like this.
Girl I'm also a victim and also experience someone who I thought my ally to invalidated my feelings for the one who did wrong to me. Saying past is past like I'm some kind of inconvenient obstacle to make the family be at peace. I mean, do we really have to suck it all up without addressing it all or making them suffer a little? A little? Do we really need to sacrifice again? Just let be for the sake of the family?
At least in fiction they can make impossible to be possible. I don't want my fictional character to experience that kind of bullshit.
We don't need those people in our lives. We can forgive but don't forget. It is not like we need to force people to be together just so people will know we already forgive them. We forgive them and never face them again.
That woman is already living his life without a care for Hyesung and you want Hyesung to care for her too? For a victim like us, you're too cruel.
You have an extremely biased opinion and you don't even realize it.
The fact that the grandmother abandoned Hye-Sung is judged excessively, but the fact that Sung abandoned Byul is not.
You can empathize with Sung because you read about how miserable her life was, but you judge her mother without knowing her circumstances. We know that both were victims of psychological abuse, but what must have been the limits of this abuse for her? Was it only psychological or did it reach the physical and sexual realm as well? Some people kill themselves because of abuse, some run away, some crumble. We can see this in victims of bullying. And what happens when bullying becomes blatant and unrestricted abuse, a constant companion within your own home?
I also don't like the grandmother, but at least I can be rational and weigh my personal opinion against my impression of something or someone and judge the situation with the best mental state instead of spewing hatred for a fictional character, but one who represents a significant portion of people. Contain your intolerance and misogyny.
It's true that Byul's grandmother could have handled it differently, she could have taken her son with her, she could have done a thousand and one things differently and better, but we don't always make the best decision, do the right thing at the right time. We all carry regrets. It's important to acknowledge mistakes and try to redeem ourselves.
I hope you can reflect a little more before commenting on these kinds of things.
At the beginning of the narrative, or at some point, everyone hated Byul's father, but the key to opinion spins too quickly and you forget things too easily because it's easier and more convenient.
Some of you let yourselves be manipulated too easily and contribute to equally toxic and destructive narratives in this cycle of hatred and destruction of others.
Be better than that.