Jo didn't send people after Ian, in which they ended up breaking his leg in the process, shattering his plans of freedom, just because he felt entitled to kept him by his side.
Jo recognized that he's changing a lot and he's doing things he has never thought of doing before because of Ian. He didn't help someone who was dying which absolutely broke him, and pointed a gun towards Jaime (?), because he wanted to protect Ian (and Toby).
He's willing to communicate, to work it out, to find solutions together. He may be selfish because he wants his affections returned but he is also selfless enough to accept that maybe just staying by Ian's side is just all Ian needs and he can do that. Not asking for more or pressuring to know about his past. He waited for him when Ian left and welcome him because the sight of Ian alive is enough for him. And Ian trust him.
Jo wants a positive and healthy lifestyle for Ian, something he yearns for. Ian's having new experiences and when he was starting to enjoy them, his past drags him back again.
I love TJ as a character, he's cool and he has so many layers to him, but no way they're similar, in the surface, except that they want Ian. But i like the visual of TJ and Jo together hahaha
What did he do exactly to be the same level as fuck up that you claim? All the characters are morally gray and the TJxJo is so disgusting.
He may also be possessive but not the point of being abusive and manipulative that he will do anything even if it means to harm to his own lover like TJ is. So no, not even lowkey because hes not even as toxic and crazy like that hoe TJ so yall gotta stop acting like theyre close to the same level of obsessiveness
No not similar i said just as fucked up. And i said lowkey because he didnt have 20 years to fuck up yet but 5 mins it and red flags r already all over the place. The point was ian shud get the fuck away from them both. Plus he has a savior's complex, refuses to see ian as anything but something to protect as ian mentioned himself and thats in no way accepting sm1. Ian knows this and wanted to be the tj in the relationship for once ul the one the other person always turns a blind eye to.
That sprinkled in with the fact that he already tried to tie down ian using guilt of u already made me fucked up when no thats just his nature as it was hinted with that scene from the rabbit ( allegedly?) Am not saying just cuz a kid has no problem cutting open a rabbit he is a serial killer but that and the fact that he repeatdly keeps thinking am not as nice as u think might just mean he knows himself enough to atleast know it wasnt ians fault he let the guy die.
Now considering ians already thinks everyone he loves becomes miserable tj user that to pull at those same threads to keep him around. "Postive healthy lifestyle"? Sure just cuz that was the life he had already if tj also had that life before he met ian thay wud be the life he wud be sucking him into. And i know that might seem farfetched but i truly believe they are parallels of each other what differ in each situation is just ian.
My point was ian shud leave em both. No cant say much considering jo and ian just started dating too but the obsessivness dynamic is similar to when tj first started dating ian. But the red flags r there and tj and jo was a joke ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~
How is theyre level of obsessivness so different and in what scenario is obsessive good the guy already killed a man for him( i know not directly) but he didnt look too remorseful if u ask me and tried to make him stay with that guilt and ofc they r not the same YET atleast they jo doesnt have a quarter of the history as tj has with ian or the TIME or half the resource to do those toxic things. Point is theyre the parallel of the same thing and ma nigga shud just ditch em both
I do agree that Ian should stay alone. The man needs anything but a toxic relationship. Just peace for once.
I don't know if Jo had a savior's complex at the beginning He likes to help people and he's a responsible dude. He helped his aunt in the restaurant, he cares for her and his cousins. He's the one they call when Chris goes missing or in trouble and probably if he knew about Toby's pregnancy sooner, he would have done something too. He's a decent dude. The environment where he grow up was a healthy one. I'm not familiar with hunting or families that like to hunt, but Jo's mother even said that she was glad the neither him or his brother took after their father's 'hobbie'. Also the father gave him the gun for protection and taught him how to use it. It was foreshadowing he was going to use it to kill or protect himself or others.
He knows Ian can protect himself but what's wrong to protect someone you love if you know that danger is always following them.
The darkness in Jo circle around his feelings for Ian. Feelings like loneliness, jealousy, possessiveness, impulsiveness, etc. Ian likes 'bright Jo', 'outdoorsy' Jo, photographer Jo, naive but sexy Jo, the one who behaves like a puppy, cooks for him and watch movies with him. Ian likes that Jo is a normal dude living a normal life. Incapable of doing harm. So Jo must have been thinking that if Ian knew about those dark feelings, he would stop liking him. This was before season 3 when Jo didn't knew about Ian's criminal background, only hearsays.
At the end of season 2 and the start of season 3 when Jo let a guy die... That man was already dead when he started following Jo and Ian took notice of that. Ian could have beaten the hell up of him, let him leave alive, Ian's a pro, but that would mean that Jo would still be a target because of being close to him. So, in a anger fit, he killed him, he broke his skull and reacted too late to what he had done. There was nothing Jo could have done. But he did think about Ian's safety first, he only thought about protecting Ian.
And something broke inside Jo that day too. He was shaken to his bones when he was in Ian's apartment. But the first thing he did was hug Ian and asking him if he was ok. Then he started rambling about what he saw and what he had done, not calling the ambulance, and at Ian's words about telling him to go home because the cops could come in the morning, a very shocked and distressed Jo snapped at him. He thought Ian was pushing him away again. I don't believe he was guilt tripping Ian or something. Jo's forte is his high emotional intelligence for better or worse. He can communicate effectively what he's feeling but those words can easily be misinterpreted like when he told Ian that he let a man die for him, then he corrected himself and said because he didn't want to lose Ian. Then they started exchanging harsh but true words and they had sex because that's Ian's coping mechanism. And he was excited to see that 'nice man' so willing to drop everything and do anything for him. Ian liked seeing Jo mad at him, he likes to provoke him, but he wasn't expecting to be called out that that behavior he has is because of that man, TJ.
I think Jo's toxic trait is that he's a man who keeps his promises not matter what. Once he's in, he's all in and that could be crazy scary but the man is not easily tempted by the criminal lifestyle.
I'm sorry if this is so long. I just really like this story. My fave is Chiwoon, TJ's right hand man xD
Not eribody acting like jo isnt just as fucked up lowkey. Maybe jo and tj shud get together