Yeah this is not seoan’s fault…if you look at the bigger picture, seoan’s changing himself to take care of woowon. Woowon may not be aggressive, but his actions despite thinking what he is doing is right are more selfish than not because the choices he makes are to make himself feel more worth rather than genuinely thinking about seoan. Seoan has his own issues too but making it sound like it’s not just as equally woowon’s fault isn’t right
oh yeah i know i came across harsher on seo-an because what he said was a trigger to woo-won. like if someone is abused, and you put more abuse on them (and him basically calling him useless and saying he has to let seo-an control his life basically is abusive behavior) i'm gonna be more pissed off at you. which isn't to say woo-won isn't at fault for the toxic relationship. he is. again. he's traumatized, hates himself and can't be away from seo-an, and uses him as a crutch.
so yeah their relationship is toxic because of both of them. never said otherwise. if i thought it was just seo-an's fault i'd have been way harsher lol and instead of toxic i would've just said it was an abusive relationship.
BUT woo-won wanting to solve things as to not bother seo-an and maybe make himself feel more useful, because he grew up believing that if he's not useful he's not loved, is not on the same level of seo-an calling him yknow...useless and being controlling. I get it though, he lashed out, people do that and usually people do that with the ppl closest to them. doesn't mean the other person has to take it.
i think woo-won needs time away to better himself. same with seo-an. they both need to grow and get better. see a fucking therapist too.
i actually think he should leave and hope he does. their relationship is just toxic at this point. and the shit seo-an told him is just fucked up. yes the mature thing to do is to talk shit out, and go their separate ways. but my guy is traumatized, has been abused most of his life, and the person he loves and trusts most right now has just doubled down on his trauma and insecurities. i don't see him being able to talk shit out and he would probably be dragged along by seo-an and his feelings instead of leaving....so yeah just go.
i get that seo-an is also a traumatized motherfucker and i feel for him. but taking his shit out on woo-won isn't ok.