It really depends on the person. For some people, having multiple lovers over the years is completely normal and nothing unusual, everyone’s experiences and boundaries are different.
But for others, sex is something they can only share when they’re deeply emotionally connected with someone. They need strong feelings: love, trust, or a real bond before being intimate. For people like that, it can be hard to relate to someone who can sleep with partners they weren’t strongly attached to. And if someone says they were “in love” many times, it might come across as less sincere.
As for me personally, I could never fully trust someone who was very casual about sleeping with others or who had many lovers in the past - it just wouldn’t align with my values or what I need in a relationship.
In the end, it really comes down to individual differences. Everyone has their own boundaries, experiences, and comfort levels, and what matters most is finding someone whose values match your own
Ahhhhh, I kind of feel like a sl*t after reading all of this. ╥﹏╥
I once met someone exactly like that. I still remember asking him out and getting rejected. I hadn’t known him for very long, but I genuinely felt something for him, and being turned down really crushed me. I was so embarrassed and hurt that I didn’t even ask why he said “no.”
About wo months later, we saw each other again at a dinner party and ended up talking (after some awkward noises came out of my mouth first). I finally asked him why he rejected me(he was single). He stayed quiet for a moment and then asked if I was seeing someone at the moment........... yes, I was, for about two weeks. That’s when he said:
“That’s exactly why. If I confessed my feelings to someone I loved and they rejected me, I would be grieving for a long time. I definitely wouldn’t be able to go out with someone else right away. That’s the kind of feelings I have, and that’s what I expect from my other half.”
At the time, I thought he was just being a prudish idiot. But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve started to think maybe my way of life is not as good as i thought （/TДT)/
Having 6 lovers with more than 40 years old... isn't that like completely normal..???