Amen.
I remember reading a post on another story that explained how this is an issue that's common in Korea. It was basically explaining how Korea has a weird view on adoption, it's been a while since I heard this so the information may be a little off but I'm pretty sure the government didn't like how many international adoptions were occuring (other races adopting korean child) so they placed a ban. But the issue is that most koreans themselves don't adopt. I think it's one of those traditonal/outdated mindset things where a woman has to bring her man his own child (usually a son so that that child can continue the bloodline and take over the family) that's her 'highest' value to her man. Those who don't, are usually negatively looked down upon. Which would explain Haesoo's mindset, she feels insecure because she feels her value is already low and keeps going lower so no one will want her. It's why it's a common troupe in asian media to see the "wicked mother-in-law" who will demand grandchildren and become awful if it doesn't happen. One thing I will add, I also HATE how when there are korean stories that do tackle adoption, the adopted child is typically "evil" or an antagonist or always feels left out. It just seems there's a naturally negative view towards adoption as a whole in Korea which is sad. Hoped this helped and for anyone to correct me if I got anything wrong!
PREACH????
It's always this weird pregnancy kink even if you're an emotional wreck who just escaped an abusive marriage, broke asf, with a situationship you know nothing about. Listen, this story from the beginning seemed to have a very close-minded traditional mindset, and Haesoo has definitely been socialised to think less of herself compared to men. It just shows from the way she's been raised, and later gaslit by Minhyuk. So it's understandable she thinks that way, also it seems in Korea they are not progressive like that.
But even in real life, you just cannot convince me of a good reason to give birth to a child instead of adopt in the current political climate and overall state of the world. You literally must have some weird breeding fetish to choose pregnancy over adopting a child who needs you. Even though you know the risks of pregnancy and how majorly downplayed and understudied women's health issues are in healthcare, how emotionally unstable you become after you give birth and how, without the proper support system, you are setting your newborn up for failure. Maybe it's a controversial take but I couldn't give less of a shit, really.
*applause*
I was refused sterilization surgery for years by doctors gaslighting me about “changing my mind” as though a primal instinct would take over my mind like a parasite and lead me to a fertile man. Fucking insanity. Finally got it done. Couldn’t be more relieved. Especially now with the government’s obsession with the falling birthrate. Highkey scared of what may happen if things continue this way.
Why are people in that world acting like adoption doesn't exist?? Like with all the abandoned children, if you cant have them on your own, and you can take care of one, go offer a home to one, why is everyone acting like adoption is this weird thing?? I swear I never wanna be pregnant, like are you crazy??why would I harm myself like that, and if he or I ever want kids, let's go adopt bish, there are like a billion with no parents, at least take care of the ones here and alive on earth already instead of bringing new ones who tbf won't even wanna be here anyway, so let's make the ones who were brought here against heir will and then abandoned help them live a healthy kind loving life, that's the least we can do. Duh.
Edit: also why are these "stories" acting like your only worth as a woman is to bring babies or else you're "ruining" the lives of these "men" like if that's all it takes to ruin it, his life is shit from the get go, which it is, and Taeha's too yet he chooses kindness, what a gentleman. A real one.