Juheon is absolutely being dramatic lmao. He literally telling another grown ass man to quit his job js because they dated 4 years ago and all bc he used u as inspo for his BL like ijbol. I get he feels some type of way and that’s grounds for a breakup but nothing can excuse how he’s treating dohu right now, in the present. Especially, when he put dohu’s condition against him by saying he wasn’t ‘capable’ of human emotions after getting mad that dohu was bullied about it before like bye fuck juheon lmfao
Juheon has the right to be angry or distrustful of Dohu, however, Dohu does deserve to have a full explanation instead of being ghosted for 4 years without any explanation. I will never understand how a lot of people placed the blame solely on Dohu when Juheon did not give Dohu chance to talk. Juheon more than anyone knows how slow Dohu is at understanding people and emotions, yet Juheon is being immensely dishonest with how he feels when it comes to Dohu. Both needs a lot of help and growing up before this relationship could work.
Well the desperate one ain't juheon anyway. Is dohu not of wrong doing harassing him for a conversation the man doesn't want??? Y'all want baby boy to be so innocent as if him forcing a place in juheons life again ain't the reason he told him to quit his job. Juheon was willing to work and not let their past come in between their work, it's dohu who is consistently trying to erase the lines between work and the past. Please I don't hate dohu but y'all act like he ain't a grown man who did nothing wrong and doesn't understand why juheon would hold such hostility towards him makes me gag. He can take being ignored and not being wanted by juheon for a bit he's not a baby.
girl... there's clearly something more about this lmao in case you were forgetting the talk with his mom four years ago ???
And correction he ain't telling him to quit his job just drop out of the project he's in. Whether you like dohu or not he's harassing juheon ATM. Juheon has expressed not wanting anything to do with him. Does harassment only matter when it's the bottom experiencing it cz you're acting like juheon setting clear boundaries once again and them not being respected ain't a big deal. And this exactly where dohu is going wrong demanding access to someone he hasn't even said I'm sorry to.
When you do someone wrong and they break up with you, you no longer have the rights to have expectations regardless of how you feel. People deal with shit different and someone deciding to ghost cz they felt so emotionally hurt isn't room for scrutiny on their character but a show of how heartbroken they were. That ghosting was more like running away from how overwhelmed he was with his feelings.
Exactly.
I feel like he had a right to be upset but he did majorly overreact. Like you said Dohu was a bit dishonest and should’ve told Juheon straight up what he was doing, that was bad and Juheon had a right to be upset about that and break up with him if he so wished. But bro just up and left his whole life behind because he found out he was bl material TT like that’s a bit ridiculous brother
Juheon was extreme about his feelings for dohu in a short time I don't know why y'all forget that. This man was begging not to be betrayed and abandoned even when they were having sex. If y'all thought that extreme wouldn't apply to him being slighted then I don't know what y'all were reading
Please reread because your memory is clearly distorted. First, Dohu has apologized, multiple times in fact, but it was Juheon who did not accept it. Second, Dohu was originally about to let go of their relationship, and it was Juheon who begged Dohu to not let him go. This was their final conversation before Juheon left. Juheon did not give Dohu any chance to redeem himself, nor giving him any chance to explain. Instead, Juheon made everything up on his own, including believing that Dohu never loved him. Dohu only came to realize too late hence his regret for the next 4 years, and his determination to not let Juheon go when they met again.
Of course, Juheon is extreme. He is traumatized by his past. He has both trust and abandonment issue. He would rather hurt others to protect himself. I think we can all agree that Dohu has left a massive psychological damage as he once again felt betrayed by the person he loved and trusted most. Hence why, even a small lie by Dohu could inflict such a huge damage.
However, the reason why we are arguing with you now is because you refused to see things on Dohu's side, and that you solely placed the burden on this failed relationship on Dohu. If this same situation happened to normal functioning couple, the most you will get is a small squabble, not a full blown break up and 4 years of ghosting, pretending not to know each other, or asking the other to quit. No matter how you slice it, it's not normal behavior. Why else do you think Dohu had to resort to do all the things he does now? It's because Juheon is still in running mode. He refused to give Dohu any chance to speak or prove himself. We can agree Dohu made a mistake, but Juheon's behavior does not help the case. He made everything so much more worse for both of them.
I personally feel for both. They are both people who deal with plenty of trauma, and have to live with the consequence of living through it. Instead of pointing fingers of who is more in the wrong, it's more correct to say they are both flawed people who need a lot of help and growing up to do.
That is no different than asking him to quit. Let say what if Dohu asked Juheon to quit his current acting role because he is uncomfortable with Juheon, does that make it okay? For this type of job, quitting a project is pretty much analogous to quitting your job. Why do you think Juheon was willing to pay him to quit? You might want to remember what the title of this series. Juheon is bringing his personal life into his career.
Also, again, I know you said you just reread this, but you may need more than just a reread, but multiple times, since you kept missing crucial details, as if you only look for things to reinforce your beliefs that everything is Dohu's fault. Dohu did not stalk Juheon. He did get the job in hope to see Juheon again, but it was pure coincidence that he got into the same team. Yes, Dohu kept looking for opportunity to meet Juheon, but can you blame him? Every time Dohu tried to talk, Juheon will come up with the lamest excuse not to listen. Starting with pretending not to know, telling him to drop the project, and then groping him saying all Dohu wanted is sex. In the end, Dohu still gave Juheon space and left. Considering his position, Dohu definitely has more chance to meet Juheon, but he did not do it, opting for coincidence meeting instead. Why? Because he is afraid that Juheon would leave without explanation again.
Look, I get that you emphatized heavily with Juheon, but I always feel those who defended Juheon have the tendency to inflate the mistake that Dohu has made. For all the wrongs Dohu has done, he did not do it with the intention to hurt Juheon. This, in my opinion, the biggest problem I have with people who made Dohu the villain of this relationship.
if u gen think juheon aint desperate u mad sad bro he literally likes dohu more than dohu likes him. THAT’S the reason he told him to quit, bc dohu was effecting him too much
Just cz he likes him doesn't mean he wants at this point. Love will not keep a relationship together and they literally proved that. There is nuance to these things y'know
Period u ate that i rlly dont know why ppl out here acting like juheon overly the victim bc his bf used him for a BL story like lmfaooaoaoao
I'm rereading the story and people who think juheon is overreacting send me cz how do you think he's not hurt when he made it a point to make dohu aware how he didn't like dishonesty??? Juheon opened up about his insecurities consistently to dohu and even with dohus condition he could still have told the truth. Juheon understood dohus condition and just wanted honesty in their relationship. I'll never forget someone telling me he was doing too much breaking up and distancing himself from dohu over something small as if breach of trust is something small. People are so used to "big" things causing break ups that the small things that fester into life long resentment are not taken seriously. I'm glad they broke up and we were not given abuser top core to "punish" dohu. Absence hurts better and it clearly made dohu realise what he did wrong.
As someone who values honesty in relationships I don't care how much it hurts me I'd rather have the truth than live in lies and always wonder if you ever liked me or I was just convenient for the time.