Oh, this is not it!
I’m with you sis, I’m with you
I'm not saying what he has done ks right, but what do we expect from a man that has been brutally abused since childhood, we can't even blame him at all cuz he doesn't know that what he is doing is wrong cuz maybe this is the only way he knows to showing affection, and I think he might have been assaulted himself cuz he was innocent when it comes to knowledge related to sex and stuff before his beloved left him to marry
No, this argument is dangerous, factually weak, and collapses under scrutiny. Excusing or minimizing abusive/sexual offending because of someone’s own traumatic past is not just wrong it’s actively harmful.
Being abused as a child is a tragedy and can distort someone’s understanding of boundaries, intimacy, and consent. But the vast majority of childhood abuse survivors do not go on to abuse others.
Claiming “he doesn’t know any better” insults the millions of survivors who Do know better and choose not to harm others despite their pain.
“This is his only way of showing affection” is classic abuser rhetoric. This is one of the most common justifications sexual offenders use. It’s also a a manipulation tactic, not a defense. Genuine affection does not involve coercion, secrecy, threats, etc.
Personal tragedy does not entitle anyone to create new victims. Even if he was brutally abused, that pain does not grant him a license to inflict the same or worse on someone else. Sympathy for his suffering and accountability for his actions are not mutually exclusive. We can acknowledge his damage and still say, he crossed a line that can never be excused.
When we say “poor him, he doesn’t know better,” we send the message to victims that their trauma is less important than the abuser’s backstory. It discourages reporting, protects predators, and perpetuates the cycle far more than any individual offender ever could. Understanding someone’s path to becoming a monster does not mean we withhold condemnation when they choose to victimize others. Empathy for abusers must end where harm to victims begins
I said all of this things based on the Manhwa, not real life cases of rape, cuz most of the times what the author's be doing is that the bottom slowly realizes about the tops tragic past, his heart softens and they get together, and even if I oppose that the ending will sadly be the same as any other bl Manhwa to that has been written
But it the author decides to break the cycle, the only ending will be the death of the top, he will die, and nobody will be satisfied with that ending too, so all of us will he stuck in this misery
And I also sympathized with the bottom toobro, what are you talking about, i feel sorry for both of them and wish they had a better past
Sorry to say this but I hope he somehow wins his heart and they end up together, and I have understood that he assaulted the poor thing cuz he doesn't know how to show affection, probably doesn't know nothing about consent, he is like a beast that only follows his instinct, my sheyla