i feel like it’s pretty unhealthy for someone to prioritize someone to that extent.. having someone you love doesn’t mean they need to be your #1 priority- having other things going on in ur life and NOT having ur lover be ur #1 priority doesn’t mean you love them any less.
i have a huge pet peeve when it comes to people who absorb so much of themselves/motivations/livelihood into their lover because they just means they have nothing else going for themselves. to truly love someone you have to be your own individual first. (this is coming from someone who was LIKE ANDREW/your ex, but is now currently in a relationship where both people are equal)
your partner shouldn’t be your other half- you should already be a complete person to begin. with, and your partner should uplift you and motivate you to be an even better version of yourself/vice versa
boo my ex too ╥﹏╥
it's so true in my experience that for some people just one person/thing is special enough to love unconditionally above all else and for others multiple things are of utmost importance. tldr - andrew is just like my ex
i remember my ex saying to me when i was busy with other things that although he respects that i have other priorities it was a shame he's not the most important one because i was his. it was lowk deep cause he was right and i assumed that meant i didn't like him enough or as much as he liked me at least. that was basically why we broke up too, i didn't want to make him feel lonely in a relationship ya know. andrew's monologue slapped me with flashbacks of this time period.
this conflict of interest is hitting real close to home maybe itll help me understand how people get past this difference in personality and perspective ╥﹏╥