Responses
It's safe but a lot of these toys are available only in Japan or in very deep niche stores because they are freaky (some mangakas work with sex toys even). Also, you need a lot of preparation and experience, so it's better to start with sounding and those toys to massage the prostate from the ass and slowly go up

Real question
is this just fiction or can my boyfriend and I try this in real life? I’m afraid we might get hurt but it looks like so much fun