I'd heard that sex for both genders hurts the first time for the one receiving, but for me, I remember it didn't hurt at all? Just a little sting, then smooth sailing. I'm guessing it just really has to do with the experience of your partner, probably.
it shouldn't hurt at all or at least very minimally if the bottom/the one receiving was prepared properly and plenty of lubrication was used -whether from a bottle or natural
What Fetish Love said. If it's done properly, it doesn't have to hurt. Losing anal virginity is nothing like losing vaginal virginity. There's no hymen (not that there always is for vaginal, either). All it takes is plenty of lube and stretching (and, honestly, don't try to do it the way they show in yaoi. There is no such thing as natural lubrication in the arse. Seriously).
It doesn't HAVE to hurt. Really.
--Someone who's had plenty of anal sex.
I'm sorry to tell u this sis, but gay sex especially when u a virgin is hard and hurts for the bottom. As a top, ik