It is actually fairly common in Japan not to introduce the other person to your kids until you are engaged. I think that has more to do with making sure the kids don't get too attached to the other person unless they know the other person will stick around.
Also keep in mind that he met her at work, and that she lived in the same town, and seeing someone after work hours or on the weekends is NOT the same as flying to Japan every evening or weekend and having to fly back. So NO, he did NOT have that time to spend with his son because he still had to work. His reasons for leaving Yuuto in Japan were reasonable. He thought he would do better with the large family in a country he was familiar with, than he would trying to settle into a whole new country with JUST his dad. His thinking has been completely logical in this, for his and his son's culture.
Living far away accounts for not seeing each other much - that's noted as the whole reason he's living with his extended family. As for not introducing them sooner, what's wrong with that? After his divorce, my brother avoided introducing the women he dated to his kids (whom he had majority custody of) until he was serious with the one who is now his wife. I think it perfectly sensible to make sure it's a lasting thing before the kids are involved.
Exactly.
I understand your points but from personal experience it's not right to just spring that out of the blue. It's like what the fuck. I could understand that they are dating and that their serious about each other but to just tell someone .. . Oh we decide to get married we met at work and got to know each other without giving you a heads up is harsh.
True but you can keep each other informed by text, letters, email and a phone call. In my opinion if you have enough time to get to meet someone else then you have enough time to update your kid on your plans.
Again, I think it's reasonable to keep it under wraps until it's definitely serious, rather than friendly updates like you describe. That's setting up expectations in a way you shouldn't do to a child. And I understand wanting to give that news in person.
Lets just agree to disagree.
You can all hate me but the dad is an asshole thru and thru. How the fuck do you just tell your kid whom you haven't seen in 9 months that you're getting married!! so that means to say you have enough time to date and get to know someone but not enough to see your kid!!! I swear some balls he's got there to say I'm marrying her and I want you to live with us.
I beg you please please don't leave Touji kun he really loves you.