What Is that?
Lol when I was single emails were STILL COOL, but point taken
I haven't been on grindr but based on second hand experiences and current crime rates in my country... not the best idea.
Whites on grindr&other apps always write in their profile they dont want POC and same irl. Imagine ur a poc and want to find a guy but all the gays in ur town are White and dont want you, thats how it is for most gay poc in the West
some app ive been recently using to get dicked down but im never on it I just love reading all those messages I get from guys telling me Im the cutest and shit lmao
I'm not sure if you're speaking about gay dating or dating in general, but discrimination based on one's skin color in the dating scene is nothing new. I'm not surprised to hear that the OP is experiencing something similar in his/her environment. I won't get into interracial dating in the US as many of us know that prejudices can be directed towards interracial couples, but it happens within other ethnic races, as well. My Indian best friend was using a Indian online dating service for a while, and one of the many qualifiers listed on people's profiles was skin color - ranging from honey wheat to chocolate, etc. Undoubtedly, there were definitely men who filtered out darker skinned-women. Pale/lighter skin is the standard of beauty for many people, so it's absolutely not surprising that some choose to prize these features in a partner/significant other, sadly enough.
You're not an awful friend! It's normal to feel jealous. You feel like he's got everything working fine but I'm sure your friend has had struggles too, you just don't know about.
And just stop comparing yourself to him. Just focus on you and you'll figure things out and it'll all be okay eventually. Fighto!!
Ugh, I get the personalities but I don't get the colour, like don't people love Hulk and he's like green for fuck's sake, I'd love to marry a purple guy or girl cause idgaf about anything actually as long as they have heart.
Lol instant self esteem boost. Good for you!
"But dirty horny men will say ANYTHING to get you to have s-ssex with them, don't flatter yourself" said the stupid side of the internet. Pay no attention. If you are safe, carry on. It does sound fun, but I'm just not looking for that kind of attention. Enjoy yourself!!
Anyway, holy shit. Racism is so fucking lame, I don't get it. I hope FNP just fucking survives that bullshit. There's racism everywhere, of course, but honestly the kind of racism in my country has more rooting in economic status and education levels. It's not "eww, dark skin". Not saying it's any better here, but it adds an extra layer of ridiculousness to be so superficial in the us, of all places.
Absolutely agreed, these things apply to any sort of human relationships. In this particular conversation I was actually being a little more specific about gay relationships. There's a huge factor that I'm not sure how it would "translate" to straight people: there was always a little voice in my head that told me I was destined to be alone because the odds of finding a partner were close to zero. The fear of loneliness is universal, but as a young gay nobody you feel like being single forever is an inevitable reality because what are the odds of finding not only another gay person, but a kind gay person willing to LOVE you? Seems too good to be true, so you start settling and/or getting desperate, just like FNP. All jokes aside, I was really trying to cheer him up, but there's just no way to guarantee things get better. You just have ti suck it up, keep yourself from making stupid decisions and try your best +1
Did I piss off all you colored guys. Happy.serves you right.
You FNP take a mirror and look at the first racist then delete my comment.
Not everyone on grindr is a dirty horny man tho and its a hookup app so..
I talked about grindr because its the most known and used app, and on any other gay app you will find Whites saying they don't want men of color to message them and being total jerks and racist to them.
Majority of White gays are trash so its nothing new or surprising
stfu
Not at all. It's a natural feeling. If i'm jealous that all of the perfect boys are fictional, does that make me a bad person?
My friend has been actively pursuing guys this last year, he is better looking tall, white and has a decent job.
I'm also gay but have been forced to live with family due to foolish mistakes on my part in education. It's my fault and I brought it upon myself. I'm going back to school for a degree that can actually get me a job and I'm happy to have a goal to work towards.
But when he showed off his boyfriend...I was really surprised at how I felt. I felt not joy for him. But this dark pit of jealousy. I didn't feel hate for him or anything but...I had successfully buried the sadness that I got from being rejected by men (especially white men) away and his announcement just made the wound bleed again.
Why can't I be happy for him?